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Poster Name:
Toosad

Poster Message:
Greek life is not for everyone. I was very fortunate that I was asked back to the max number of houses and joined a place where I am extremely happy. My roommate was asked back to a limited number of houses and while she had a choice of three on the last day she opted not to join a sorority. We are both seniors now and still close. I have wonderful friends in a great house, but are my friendships any better or stronger than those she has made as a non-Greek? Doubtful. There are many ways to find a niche at this great university. There are clubs and organizations and multitudes of majors and even more ways to make lasting friendships. There is no one correct way. Please do not let your daughter think her identity can be shaped only through a sorority. And please let her know that "to have a friend you have to be a friend" is one of the best lessons I've ever learned and it doesn't just apply to Greek life. If she joins a house she will make wonderful friends. If she doesn't, she still will make wonderful friends. It's all up to her, but the majority of women at this school are NOT members of a sorority, so there is no reason she should think that being and independent means being a failure. And one more thing: give her some space to make this decision on her own. If she is sharing every detail of rush and you are living it with her, you are far too emotionally invested. She will be just fine if you let her figure it out for herself.