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Not sure if this is a troll or not but going to err on the side of a real question. This is a common feeling. After being the center of attention from your parents in the run up to school and then through rush, you are now into the real world of college. You are no longer the center of attention. We actives have classes, clubs, and other friends to connect with in and out of the house. We are exhausted from planning for recruitment and then the actual rush which was MUCH more demanding on us than any PNM. We might have started internships, TA, and we are trying to keep up these insane GPAs. We want you to have a great time and bond with us but you are not our only priority. Give the swaps a chance but don't believe everything you see on your insta. While tons of fun, they can be awkward at first until you find your people and even then they are some are only OK. You might float in and out of several groups before you find them. That's ok. They are there. At study hours you will start to find those in your major or in your classes. Eat at the house and hang out there as much as possible. You will find sisters who are there hanging out. The first philanthropy events are another place to meet your sisters and work towards a cause so important to your house identity. Games days are awesome but this first one might be awkward, especially if you didn't know a lot of people coming into UA from your hometown. With the game being in Atlanta it might be hard to find your place. Opening home game will be so different. Hang in there. Realize that this is going on with all new members in all houses. Find a friend for now.The besties will grow with time. Pomping and homecoming are around the corner. Greek week is a blast. Tons of swaps, date parties, football games, and formals are in your future. Many don't find that they completely fit in until next recruitment season when you are going through on the other side. THEN you realize all that your sisterhood means to you and you find your best friends. This is not instant bonds for life and you won't click with all 400 girls. But you will find your group and you will share that common sisterhood. Finally, this is college. Our sororities are important to us but we are here for our education. What time is left over we want to have fun and relax too. We are headed to the bars and fraternities with our friends, many from different houses, and we don't want to play social director every night for someone new. You will find your place if you forget the one the got away and embrace the house that actually wanted you. That other house is no better and the new sisters in those houses are feeling the exact same way.