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<strong>Subject:</strong><br />Here's the truth<br /><br /> Poster Message:
For all the women on this forum complaining how recruitment failed them when, in fact, they did get invited back to a house or offered bids but dropped because "they'd be miserable" or "there was no connection:" You probably met less than 10% of the entire chapter in each house during recruitment. From an alumna who had close friends in her sorority as well as friends in other sororities, it honestly doesn't matter which house you join because in every single house on this campus, there are at the very least a few girls who you would probably get along very well with personality-wise and could grow close to given the time and opportunities, and no matter what sorority you join, a few close friends is all you are probably going to have. By the end of my time in college I was rolling my eyes whenever we were pressured to talk about how close we were with every single one of our sisters because, in reality, that wasn't true. Most girls in my chapter (myself including) had small close friend groups of 3-5, and the rest of the girls in the chapter were just friendly acquaintances you'd see around sometimes at chapter or mixers and might wave to if you passed them on campus. People complain about not making genuine connections with certain houses during recruitment, but the truth is that it's difficult to make genuine connections during recruitment because it's all fake. Each person you talk to at a house has already talked to dozens of other girls that day, and they are asking each one the exact same questions. Recruitment is 90% small talk. Some people are great at small talk, and some people aren't, but either way, that's not a valid measure for how you would connect with them in a more genuine setting and their potential to be a fun person and a good friend. Stop acting like this is such a terrible situation because you didn't get the first-choice house you wanted. A lot of girls did get invited back to certain houses and offered bids, but they dropped because they acted like it would have killed them to spend another minute with the girls who invited them back. And that's on the PNMs, not Panhellenic.