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Like other said, if you are initiated then re-rushing isn't an option. I would be careful about looking at other houses with rose-colored glasses. 4-6+ genuine friends in a house is plenty. I'm in a house that's known for its good sisterhood and honestly that is the amount of friends I would say I have in the house as a second year. There are also plenty of members that I am friendly with but not friends with, and there are still others I don't get along with at all. Even in my house that is known for its sisterhood, there are members that don't like each other etc. There are also cliques in the sense that if I have a bad run-in with a girl, the friends of that girl will not want to associate me either. It is part of being in a group as large at the sororities at Cal. It's worth talking about to someone if this issue is widespread, but keep in mind that things like this occur at every house, so please don't regret your decision and dwell on other houses that you could have chosen instead. If you've made good friends, your house doesn't need to be perfect -- do you feel you are getting something positive out of the activities etc? Can you see yourself pursuing leadership roles in the house? If you see the house as a place where you are allowed to grow and can foster friendships than stay. If you feel there is nothing for you then leave. But it sounds like aside from this issue, you do have a good amount of friends in the house.