If deemed necessary, reported comments will be removed within 7 - 10 days but usually sooner. Please submit this report ONLY if you STRONGLY believe this needs to be removed. Multiple illegitimate reports slow down the administrative process of removing the actual and more seriously unfavorable content.

Poster Name:
Factors You Can't Control

Poster Message:
These posts are solid and obviously you should try to be engaging, BUT you need to know there are other factors that simply are not in your control. If you don't get into a house you think you want, don't feel like you did something wrong. There were two times I thought I had great conversations at a house and the next day I didn't get invited back. What I know now, though, is that some PNMs already know girls in houses. Maybe they were from the same high school or area, maybe they played sports together, or were Regents Scholars, maybe they were in the same dorm together. Those PNMs are going to have an advantage. Legacies and PNMs with recs may also have an advantage -- not a big one, but they might get invited back to an extra day. I've heard some houses drop PNMs in hard majors because they want to keep their GPAs high. There could be a million other reasons you'll never know. Maybe the sister you talked to doesn't have much pull in the house. What you've already figured out is that these decisions, based on a super fast conversation in a loud room, are pretty superficial. You can do your best, but almost every PNM is going to get cut along the way, probably many times. When it happens, just say "whatever, their loss," look at the houses you've got left and put on a smile. This site likes to make it seem like all the houses are super different, but they're all pretty similar. Don't get your feelings hurt -- it's really not personal -- and keep going!