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Poster Name:
Notloling

Poster Message:
Bear, do you have a fundamental belief that everything is fair? Do you believe that just because you show up you are entitled to equal treatment by a system that has been operating in roughly the same way since 1900? I am on your side in this but I'm working from inside the system. My mom was first generation and went through probably one of the most competitive rush scenes in the us. Did she get a so called top two house by your definition? No she did not. She probably got what you would call a upper mid tier house. Thing is she wanted to be part of the system. She was pres of her pledge class, vp of recruiting, and later chapter pres and pres of panhel. What she did by hanging in was progress for all the first gen folks that came later. Because of her experience I understood the limitations of the system but chose to join for what I knew the system could give me. My mom would never have had the job and leadership opportunities she did without her sorority and she is eternally grateful for what she experienced. It made absolutely no difference which house she was in as she made her experience her own and played her own game! I am sorry you don't see it this way. But maybe you made the right decision for you and you will find other ways to contribute to cal and grow and develop yourself. But what makes me a bit sad is that you let others define your experience and let you negative experience get in the way of your personal growth. Just my opinion and I truly wish you well.