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by: Let's seeLet me ask for clarification. If I naivly ask an alumni to write me a rec, she can write a bad one? Does she have to show any reason why, or proof, as to why she doesn't want me in her old sorority? That's slander! I have really lived a pretty boring life in HS but I know there is a lady that doesn't like my mom through work. I've heard she has written bad letters for many girls. I thought they carried no weight. How does this work?
Comment#2 by: Senior
Unless an alum has something concrete on you and a hometown active backs it up we don't take them too seriously. A vague no is much to go on. If several girls are coming from your hometown/school then a rec might very well say she's lovely but isn't in my top couple of picks for who we should rush.
by: ...Jun 7, 2016 8:51:34 AM
@good question Yes that's a possibility. Once again, PNMs who go into recruitment with their mind set on one group can easily be crushed. It is crucial to be open minded!!! Also DO NOT listen to negative talk about a particular group unfortunately your friend in XYZ might lie to you about sorority ABC so you will not join there. Some "friends" will even threaten to not be your "friend" any more if you don't join her group. I have heard negative recruitment stories from every house on campus so don't buy in to the negatives!
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#3 by: Sick. Of. It.
by: Shut upJun 8, 2016 6:49:11 AM
It rarely happens, but it does happen. If your reputation is so bad that an alum goes out of her way to make sure that you don't end up in her sorority then you've got problems and probably won't end up in any sorority at all. Or at least not top tier. Get your act together and quit throwing pitty parties.
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#5 by: Bitter
You bitter much? The girl asking why an alumni wound do this is proving a point. There are three ladies that do this consistently in two top sororities. It's so bad that actives are told by state Panhellenic to ignore their letters. I know this is true as young alumni I work with has told me to beware of these ladies. An adult should not hold grudges against a girl who is 18 and just starting out. If a reputation is bad, just mark that on the rec letter. That should be all any grown up should do.
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by: Good wuestionJun 7, 2016 8:33:19 AM
Can an alum, who feels that she has good reason to write a negative recommendation, pair up with an upper class sorority member to have a PNM cut? Like, is there some strategic moves made beforehand to keep someone out that an alum doesn't like?
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