being "that friend" in a different sorority
by: SadA couple close high school friends and I all chose to go to Mizzou and go through recruitment. Our personalities all compliment each other's, but I guess I'm the most different of the group.. So my friends all end loving this certain sorority during recruitment and get bids there. I got cut from this house and didn't care too much and ended up getting my #1 pick anyway. We obviously knew college would be different and it wouldn't just be us all the time and our friend dynamic would change, but it ended up being the opposite. They'd hangout all the time and go out with our ever inviting me, and when they did I felt left out because talk about their chapter and sisters monopolized the conversations. Even back home over break, I'm seeing they're making plans with each other and other sisters in our area back home and haven't bothered to make plans with me. I just miss them and wanna be included again. Any one else the black sheep of their friends because they're in a different chapter?
#1by: aw
It's ridiculous for your friends to treat you like that. Your letters should not define who all of your friends are, especially if you have a history. Talk to them about it, let them know that you notice this and it upsets you. I don't have this issue but that's because I decided to go to a school where I knew no one at all.
Comment#2by: Hmmm....
You must be from St. Louis. That's the only place I know where high school friends are more important than college friends. You are finding out, day by day, that you have less and less in common with these girls. They opted to hang out with high school friends, even in college, and you are opting to expand your horizons. Keep making new friends in college and you will soon realize that high school was then, this is now, and your new friends appreciate you for who you are, not who you were. Soon you won't miss the old friends at all, but rather will leave them behind as you figure out who you REALLY are. Best of luck to you.
#3by: I'm sorry hun :/
They don't sound like very good friends. I don't want to lecture you but you really do deserve better! It's understandable that they don't invite you to stuff like chapter meetings and such. But my friends from high school are in different houses and we still meet up once a week to study or grab lunch, they've been my dates to formals, etc.
Even just ignoring you when you're back home? It sounds like they've stopped caring. I know it sucks but my advice is to make plans with your sisters and try and monopolize on your sorority group. Branch out. Don't wait up for them to invite you along out of pity. You know?
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