my perspective

im in a house that this site calls middle tier and I feel the same way about recuitment. During recruitment there was stress about being up so early and staying up so late and wanting your rush crush to accept a bid. But no cattiness. But my roommate from last year is in a house that this site considers top tier, but falling. On bid day she had found out that a couple of girls that her sorority really wanted had actually accepted bids to mine. She texted me things along the lines of "wow how did you guys manage to get those girls? We were sure they would've wanted our house" it made me realize just how glad I am to be in my house and that isn't our attitude when it comes to women in recruitment!

It's always easy being mediocre. It takes work to be the best.

I am in a top house and this sure doesn't describe anything resembling the rush we put on. We target many girls and usually get them. We talk to everyone (who makes our grade cut) with an open mind and love it when someone grabs our attention out of the blue. We have a strong desire to get the best girls we can, but we also want to maintain a close sisterhood and so we make sure we can relate to each and every person to whom we issue a bid. "Who you know" matters very little in my house. Perhaps that's why we have so many out of state girls and girls from small towns. We look first and foremost for people who fit in and perhaps that's why we get so many of them. And on bid day, we are proud of our babies and wish everyone the best, whether they chose our house or not. So perhaps your cousin chose her house for the wrong reasons? Cuz that doesn't sound like much of a sisterhood to me.

People usually end up in the house they were meant to be in. Some PNMs find that they want a tight-knit sisterhood more than being in a competitive "top tier" house, and that's okay. And for those girls who like to compete against other houses for the top rankings, there are sororities for them to join too. It is all about where you fit in best/feel at home.

I'm not sure that the original post is based in reality. I just don't see PiPhi, TriDelt and ChiO appealing to the same types of girls. They each have their own identity and there isn't much crossover.