honest question for pnms

You're a gem! If you preference all the houses on your list on preference day you'll get a bid matter what.

So you're already deciding you're too good for some houses and if a house is "below" you you'll drop? This isn't high school anymore. Most people rushing were super involved and achieved a lot in high school. You're used to being a big fish in a small pond but in recruitment you'll be just another little fish in a HUGE pond. Don't expect a perfect rush because it's rare. You will get cut from a house you like. You might get cut from all the houses you think you like. if you drop because of that its your loss. Mizzou has 15 wonderful sororities and an amazing Greek system you'll miss out on because of your ego. There are women with your stats in every house because no matter how great you think you were in high school, you might not fit in at the "top" house. And the women with your stats joined because they love their sisters and didn't think certain houses were below them.
If this is already your attitude there's about a 75% chance you'll drop or get cut before bid day. good luck!

You seem well qualified, but grades can only take you so far in rush (the next round). I know you're used to high levels of achievement and getting the best, but if your personality doesn't fit "top" houses you won't get a bid from them. I feel like you should approach rush from a different way. The "top" sororities might not be the best for you or where your happiness will be, you can have a really bad connection with them for all you know. Now I'm not trying to say settle for less but what I am saying is be realistic. I know a girl who is one of mizzou's top students in the class of 2018 proven by certain positions, organizations and societies she's in. She may not be a Tri Delt, Pi Phi or a XO, or even a KKG, ADPI or Theta, but she loves her house and is still a high achiever. So what I'm basically trying to say is being in a certain tier of sorority doesn't in anyway reflect any true achievement. The true achievement will be gaining a sisterhood, something that all PNMs can do. Follow your heart, not some ridiculous standard.

Who said anything about tiers? Who said anything about being "too good" for a house or that any house is below me? I know that if I am not doing well in rush and if I have not brought my A game, I will be cut. That's not my ego talking. In fact, I've often been told I'm not confident enough. So now I'm told there is a 75% chance I won't make it to bid day. Thanks for the honest criticism, one and all. I've decided to skip recruitment and give myself a few extra days with my family and at my job before traveling to Columbia. I just wish I could get my money back because I am paying for much of my schooling myself. The sad thing is that I think it would have been great fun to be Greek and I think I might have been an asset to a sorority.

Tootrue, give recruitment a try! As a pnm, I just want to say that everyone no matter what will have their own opinions. There are so many harsh critics on this website bashing other people and sororities. I know you were just trying to speak your mind without getting ridiculed, so don't let it bother you. You have achieved a lot. And I understand what you go through...I put a lot of pressure on myself as well and always seem to be "not good enough" even when I am! So, I understand how you feel. But don't let this get you down. Going greek could be the best decision of your life! You've already paid to rush, why not give it a try. You can always drop out...just give yourself a chance to meet awesome people and potential sisters.

Why Mizzou?

To the person who told the 34 ACT 1/622 that she has a 75% chance of being dropped, shame on you. My guess is that you are one of those underachievers who barely made it into a house and who is resentful of people who are smarter, more popular and certainly nicer than you. I hope you see how hurtful your words are. What in the world were you thinking? To me that girl sounded like just the kind of humble overachiever that my house would love to have. She could have been a real asset, and then you come along and tell her she thinks she is too good for some houses. And that every house has girls with 34 ACTS who are valedictorians. I'm in a house that some think is top tier and I can tell you that our house is not full of girls like that. And you house isn't either.

That's the thing. People won't talk to you during rush about getting drunk and partying. When I went to GPhi the first day I actually had a normal conversation. It wasn't until later that I found out more about what that house stands for. So if you are thinking your conversations tell the whole story, beware.