message to all minority pnms

This post kind of annoys me. Yes, let's just act like it's not intimidating at all that 90% of the women rushing a sorority are blonde, white girls. You're right, some white girl on greek rank telling the minorities she loves them and not to be scared is soooo comforting. Easy for you to say. But It's okay for minorities to feel a bit intimidated about joining a historically very racially one dimensional organization. A post reminding minority PNMS that they are a minority and that if they weren't scared before, they should've been, but it's okay now because you told them to relax? No. Don't say that. Because it probably is a little scarier for them. The reality is that they will be outnumbered and some houses do not have minorities, and that IS scary. So let's be realistic here and just remind any minority PNM that they have a right to rush and find a potential home just like every other girl, and that they have a right to be scared and recognize their advantages and disadvantages, just like every other girl. You're not the almighty white girl telling the dark girl not to be afraid because you "love them all" like they're little puppies. She's got a right to be here but also a warranted right to be a little scared as well.

I get this was supposed to be a positive post, but the wording was just a little unsettling.

Thankyou for making it awkward for us.

This is so darn insulting. A white person telling us how to feel and think? Implying everything is fine because YOU have deemed us worthy of joining your little society. Until you know what it's like to be the only person of color in a room of 100 or 200 women you have no right to tell us that everything will be OK as long as we don't worry about it. How about not being so condescending? How about just accepting us for who we are and save the platitudes for someone who believes them?

God damn people are nasty. She was just trying to spread a positive message and try to lessen our worries in no malicious intent. People getting bashed on for being nice.

Condescending (adj): having a feeling or showing patronizing superiority. Where in this post are minorities being patronized? There's no tone of superiority in this post either. The goal of the post was to communicate a message of love, and love is never condescending. You're misunderstanding what I was trying to communicate, I wasn't trying to say every thing will be okay because now white people deem minorities worthy. I was trying to say everything will be alright because you are women. You are just a much as a woman as any other pmn, not because I deem you that, because you naturally are! All women have a shot at rush, mizzou Panhellenic has come a long way because they're a group of women who understand a human is somebody beyond a skin color or origin. I was not trying to dictate all your feelings, but get those who are stressed out because of issues of race to be more comforted and assured toward the process. No, I will never be in your position and can't relate on that level, but what I can do is give you is some affirmation toward recruitment. I just wanted to make every girl going through this process feel like they are valued just as much as any other girl. And "ah... No" yes white privilege might exist, but you none was being imposed on to anyone with this post. If you don't like what I said, I truly do feel sorry for you. This was obviously not meant to offend anyone. This world is just full of pessimist trying to destroy positivity at every turn you make..

If you do, and damned if you don't. PC/Overly Sensitive Police need to give it a rest. The OP meant well.

Honestly, I feel like minorities are going to have a leg up over other PNMs this year. First off they are more easily recognized by actives compared to the rest of the girls who all start to blend together party after party, and every chapter wants to be seen as "open and diverse". My only worry would be girls getting bids from houses they don't match personalities with just to have a visible "token" of acceptance. Don't see your minority status as a disadvantage, see it instead as a step up against the competition because it makes you different in a beautiful way. Hope you all end up in the chapters you will feel the most loved by.

Angry PNM (idk though your same arguments appear in most racially centered posts, so I think you're just trolling) I feel like you'll have a hard time when you join a chapter because you're making race a bigger issue than it is. You're about to join a large sisterhood, so if you keep on focusing on being the lonely minority how will you ever feel at home with your sisters? The facts are this: not many minorities rush and there are many reasons as to why, but one of them certainly isn't instituitionalized racism, mizzou PHA's diversity (check out your Pi Chi's) proves it. From your perspective I know it's hard feeling like the odd one out, but these women see the content of your personality what really matters, I know it seems intimidating but in order to get best out this process you have to ignore the adversity and put your best foot forward and smile. Be offended if you want ( idk how you would, i'm sure you'd surprise me) but what I say is the truth. I sincerely hope you find your home, and you feel the love of sisterhood.

You put words in my mouth. I never told you how to feel. Have fun continually trolling on this topic. Unhappy pessimist