my message to pnms on this website

Hey, it's no problem. I'm glad you could get something out of it.

I appreciate your reply. I want to point out that
a) I didn't mention if I was male or female.
b) I'm not putting down an entire system because I didn't find my "niche". I'm putting down an entire system because of the basically undeniable truths about it.
c) I have seen sorority life at Mizzou, and I don't know if it could truly be described as "diverse". Also, you can have good grades on your own. And, when it comes down to it, things like Homecoming and Greek Week are frivolous whether you think so or not. I'm glad you've found support and great friendships in your sorority, but I hope you're prepared for the real world where there aren't girls there to support you all the time. That's not how the real world works; that's not how life works.

It's actually really amusing that you think I'm a woman, namely because I'm not. I'm not going to disagree that most fraternity members aren't the most articulate people, but yes, there is a man who has been through this and cares enough to talk about it. "Sorry you can't envision a world with supportive friends". Really? I don't know where you got the image that I'm some sort of friendless loner, especially when I clearly stated in my original post the importance of making friends in college. Would your friends still be friends with you if you had dropped your sorority? I hear horror stories of girls getting insulted, shut out, and ostracized after deciding for personal reasons to leave their chapters. And I wonder what kind of "friends" they had. At the core of it, we're different people with different opinions, and that's fine. I'm glad for your accomplishments and the friends that you've made, but problems with the Greek system as a whole still exist and they shouldn't be ignored.

Wow, here we have a woman posing as a man lecturing us on the fact that life isn't perfect. If the sorority system is so awful, why do thousands of women want to join and probably fewer than 100 quit after initiation? And how do you know and why do you care what sorority friendships are all about anyway? You made your decision, so live with it. And we will live with ours. But why in the world are you trying so hard to convince us you are a man? That's just stupid. And if you want to case a stone about a flawed system, if you really are a man, start with the fraternity system. But, of course, you aren't.

Haha, you know what? Think what you'd like. You're the one making yourself sound ignorant by assuming untrue things about me. I don't have anything to prove by being a man, I only even mentioned it because the person was so insistent that I was in a sorority/a woman. I was addressing sororities in specific in my comments because the person who replied to my comment is a woman in a sorority. And if you read my original post, most of my problems with Greek life can be applied to both fraternities and sororities, so why would I only talk about fraternities in specific? My message was to anyone potentially interested in Greek life reading this website, which includes young men and women.

Why don't you concentrate on fixing the system you supposedly know so much about firsthand - the Mizzou fraternity system? Hazing, wretched houses in disrepair, financial woes, terrible grades, roofing. Seems to me with all of those problems, the so-called superficial friendships you insist exist among sorority girls are the least of the Greek system's problems.

I'm confused. Is the OP a woman or a man? Or maybe just a former ADPi?

Bruce Jenner?

Ooh, it's so funny and edgy to make fun of transgender people.

I don't think she said greek life was bad, she was simply making it a point that it is not and should not be everything. You should explore your individuality in college, not become defined by a few letters which tends to happen whether we realize it or not. It's very easy to become so absorbed in the superficiality of greek life without even noticing we are. We start to look down on those who aren't which is horrible. Many people just choose not to be involved because they don't have the money and feel they can still benefit in college without greek life. The poster was just trying to say it's not everything and often times people make it seem that way.

She/he. Whoever it may be. I understand the concept.

My message was that it's okay not to be a part of Greek life for these reasons: __________ (see: original post), not that there's something wrong with choosing to join. It's just important for people to make informed opinions before joining. I'm trying to tell PNMs what I would have told myself before rushing.

^ nailed it.

There's a name for people who always blame someone or something else for their unhappiness: losers.

Wait, I'm unhappy? This is certainly news to me. It's actually pretty sad to me that my post has devolved into petty name calling and false assumptions about my intent. I'm not saying that anyone is "wrong", and I'm not saying that I'm "right". Both sides are simply sharing their opinions, and I believe that's a good thing. If you found your niche in Greek life, that's fine. My original post wasn't even directed towards those who are already involved in Greek life, but rather what I've taken away from the Greek system as a whole, and my advice based on that.
I think the fact that so many people in the comments are jumping at my throat at the NOTION that Greek life may not be the most accepting, individualized, meaningful institution is actually kind of helpful in proving my point.

Seems to me if you were totally HAPPY with your decision to pledge and your sisterhood, you would have stayed instead of quitting. I have read this entire thread and I'm confused. If you were 100% happy, wouldn't you have stayed? And talk about false assumptions, seems to me you are the Queen of False Assumptions when you conclude that people wear there letters only as status symbols, that you give up your independence when you join a house and that you can't make friends based on real shared interests when you are in a sorority.

that the OP is a former ADPi who dropped, along with about 10 others from their original pledge class. I guess that's why they do "super secret" (but known to all!) COB.

Thank you, "Just a thought", for the constructive criticism of my message. That's actually super helpful, and I'll keep that in mind. As for the commenter above, you're wrong, but it was worth a shot.