am i the only person?

Honestly I COB'd but am very aware of the politics behind going Greek in general. Whether it's rush or COB'ing. a lot of Greek Life has to do with who you know. It's just the way it is. And honestly life is no different. People with connections usually get ahead, that's just the way it is. Now that isn't to say that there aren't LOTS of girls who Rush/COB completely on their own (neither with legacies or recs) and still end up exactly where they want to be whether it's a top, middle, or bottom tier house. (Yes ladies, not everyone is interested in being top tier.. Some girls actually do care more about being Greek than just the label!) It is easier when you know people, but that's just life. It's easier to get a job if someone who works there can vouch for your abilities, character, etc. Same goes for rush or COB'ing. But that should not discourage anyone… Often times it is easy to tell whether someone is being genuine, legacy or not. If you seem like you'd fit in and you're what the chapter is looking for, you have a good chance. I'm just saying it isn't fool proof and always fair, but honestly what is in life anyways? Just my thought!

EXACTLY. Sorry you are heartbroken from a house that cut you during COB but life's not fair and you can't just go around blaming and pointing fingers just because you didn't get your way. There are much bigger problems out there and 1 person trying to take revenge on Greek life seems really insignificant compared to much bigger problems in Greek life. Plus, you can talk to PHA until you're blue in the face, but everyone knows the rush process won't change bc there's just no way to make everyone happy. All you can do is forgive and move on. Throwing a fit about not getting a "sorry we didn't want you" email is extremely naive and immature. You're in college, start acting like it.

I COBed Aphi, AXO, and ADPi a couple years ago. I got bids to axo and adpi, but not to aphi. Aphi sent me an email saying that their cob process was over and they accepted ## girls. A girl down the hall in my dorm cobed axo and aphi and got an email from both houses saying the same thing. I'm not sure where this "no courtesy email" is coming from but I've never heard a problem with it, at least for the houses mentioned. Maybe there are other houses that didn't give a notice, or maybe it didn't just happen this year?

Personally speaking for my house, we had every girl who was interested in joining us submit their GPA along with their info and any woman who met our grade cut offs got open invitations to several low-key activities throughout the week in order to meet sisters. We did a mini recruitment and then had a preference night where we narrowed the field and paired girls one on one to see if the fit was good.

We rushed about ninety rushed and took about thirty.

And I'm in a bottom tier house. Like, actual bottom tier and I'll admit that.

I'm unsure what about the way we did things in considered unfair. Any girl who met out GPA recruitment was invited to come to any of our open events and in my opinion it worked very well and we got a great PC.

Whoever is accusing the bottom tier of trying to be jerks and act important doesn't know what she's talking about because the other two bottom tier houses do it the same way we do. The houses that actually COB "unfairly" are AXO and APhi and honestly, I would COB the same way they do if we only needed six or so girls. Why put together an entire mini recruitment if you know what you want and only need to fill five spots?

We do what we do because we needed to fill more spots and a house like AXO takes the word of initiated sisters because COB isn't as big a deal for them.