so, what did you think?

I’m becoming really good friends with a girl from my dorm floor who was the only person that’s been friendly to me there and she went through recruitment too and got a heartbreaking call the morning of bid day and so I feel you. She’s so amazing across the board and I hate that she came out short. I try to include her in things I do with the girls I made friend with in my pledge class whenever I can, and i’m Inviting her to come with me to our first social. She still really wants the chance to be in a sorority and signed up for COB and i’ve been doing what I can to be supportive and encourage her! She got invited to one or two events, so i’m hoping the best and giving her good vibes. She said if it doesn’t work out she’s going to try next semester or even formal recruitment again sophomore year bc she said a girl in her pi chi group was in her same situation and did recruitment again this year and finally got a bid! My advice would just be to show all the love and support you can.

There is something inherently wrong with a system in which girls who go through the entire week of rush wind up with NOTHING, while houses turn around the day after recruitment is over and try to sign girls to fill their house through COBing. The system is broken. Who is going to find a way to fix it? Obviously quote shouldn't be the same for every house because some houses need to take more girls. COBing is so sketch and unfair because everyone knows the houses just go for friends of people already in the house. And if you are from a small town and don't know anyone or if you are from out-of-state you are SCREWED.

Even if you are from a town people know about, your chances aren’t strong either. All it takes is one person or group of people to have something against you... then you aren’t even considered for a house. Just like that. People are judgmental, and care too much about high school. Get over yourselves, this is it. This is college. This is the real world. People change and grow up, let them. This system is flawed, we need to fix it.

College isn't really the real world, though. And the reality is that unless you already know someone in a house you probably won't be asked to come to COB events or get a snap bit. It is inherently unfair to out-of-state girls and, let's be honest, they are some of the most outstanding girls who actually choose to be here because of a specific major rather than just coming because it's cheap.