what do you think?
by: ScaredOn paper I might be considered desirable. I have a 4.3 on a 4 point honors scale, I was president of my junior class, I have won state musical competitions and was voted to prom court. Some people say I'm attractive. But here's the thing. I'm a true introvert and until I feel comfortable in a setting I tend to be a bit quiet and tongue tied. While I really want to join a sorority (as both of my sisters have) I am scared to death about recruitment. Any advice? I really don't want to fail at this.
#1 by: Go for it
While you might have a more difficult time than girls who are naturally outgoing, there will always be a place for all types of girls in a house. Not every person in a sorority is rah-rah. My advice would be to listen, express interest, make eye contact, be sincere and SMILE. And think in advance about questions to ask and how you would answer typical questions so you will be prepared. I don't think you will fail at this.
Comment#3 by: me too
Last year at this time I was worried about the same thing and everything worked out fine. I love my sisterhood. But this might be a good time to remind sorority members who will be talking to PNMs that not everyone is naturally outgoing, and if they seem reluctant to talk about themselves or sometimes hesitant while conversing, that doesn't mean they are disinterested or aloof or snobby. I have been accused of all of that by people who don't know me well or who don't understand what it is like to be quiet or shy. Give everyone a chance. Your house will be better for it.
#4 by: Stay cool
I'm not trying to dismiss your concern or your anxiety. I know your fear is real. But I promise you, you will be rushing with hundreds and hundreds of girls who feel EXACTLY the same way you do right now. And even the most charismatic and outgoing PNMs are absolutely terrified, they're just better at handling it. The only people who aren't nervous and full of self-doubt at a time like this are sociopaths. Trust your Pi Chis. They want to help you, and you can lean on them if you feel overwhelmed. Trust the sorority members you talk to. They went through this too, they remember! Believe me, there are shy introverted girls in every sorority. You can do this, I promise.
by: Hmmm...Aug 6, 2018 11:26:35 PM
Sociopaths? Really? Seems to me sociopaths are extremely antisocial and without a conscience, which hardly describes people who want to join a sorority. Next time you ^ try to dazzle us by throwing a big word around, do us a favor and make it the right one. Otherwise you have no credibility.
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by: Nice tryAug 7, 2018 8:52:22 AM
One of the classic signs of sociopathy/psychopathy on the triarchic model is social boldness: stress-tolerance, toleration of unfamiliarity and danger, and high self-confidence and social assertiveness. And people with the classic Dark Triad personality traits (narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy) demonstrate a high degree of extrovertedness and openness. They tend to seek out and join social groups, as they believe interpersonal manipulation and dominance is the key to success in life. Sociopaths are "anti-social", yes, but in psychology anti-social doesn't mean a person who avoids social situations, it means a person who lacks consideration for the well-being of others and is socially destructive. So, thanks for playing, but you have no idea what you're talking about...and honestly, if you think "sociopathy" is a big word, then you need to spend less time on Greekrank and more time studying.
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by: MizGreekAug 7, 2018 9:35:27 AM
Nice try are you a Dr. yet? I am guessing you are practicing without a license. To label somebody a sociopath based on one trait IS CRAZY in itself.
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by: LOLAug 7, 2018 10:17:25 AM
Ha ha, "Hmmm" got torched. This is why APhis should stick to talking about makeup and self-tanning.
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by: FFSAug 7, 2018 10:49:06 AM
You all got a chip in your head that goes off every time the other posts? Every damm day you're here arguing about some BS nobody cares about. OP here's some advice: don't pay attention to the idiot drama you read on this garbage, unmoderated, anonymous forum. None of these morons even go to Mizzou.
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by: Just to clarifyAug 7, 2018 11:39:59 AM
There are very few, if any, sociopaths in Mizzou's sorority system. And just because you are outgoing, enjoy conversation and feel comfortable in a recruitment setting, that doesn't make you a sociopath by any means. In fact, many are not terrified during rush, nor are they nervous or full of self-doubt -- and that doesn't make them sociopaths. They are just looking forward to the process and finding out about different sororities. Seems normal enough, doesn't it? So ignore what our friend has copied and pasted from the internet, because she doesn't really know what she's talking about.
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by: @HmmmAug 7, 2018 12:02:55 PM
The same miserable troll who claims half our sororities are "hanging by a thread" has gotten so desperate that she's resorting to criticizing anonymous peoplem's choice of words now! She was clearly exaggerating to make her point, generalizing any group of people as sociopaths is clearly not meant to be taken literally. God how pathetic one's life must be when your greatest thrill is demeaning strangers online. For context she's either a total troll or an alumn, she's been caught in lies as recent as last week (ie not knowing about gphi's construction.) Dont listen to this wacko
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by: Ha!!!!!!Aug 7, 2018 12:06:29 PM
by: hate itAug 7, 2018 12:18:23 PM
This is what I hate about this site. Someone tries to sound important and misuses the word sociopath and all of a sudden we are distracted from answering a perfectly good question from the OP. Get a grip, people.
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by: yepAug 7, 2018 9:43:48 PM
by: umAug 8, 2018 4:35:32 PM
by: yepAug 9, 2018 8:45:08 AM
^would explain why she was so butt hurt about the casual use of the word sociopath...
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by: pleaseAug 9, 2018 2:29:42 PM
^do us all a favor and stop commenting on your own posts. You just aren't that clever.
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by: ^Aug 9, 2018 6:48:48 PM
#5 by: Introvert
I’m an introvert as well and I was super nervous about recruitment as a pnm and as an active. What is do is have a kind of “switch” that I turn on and enter recruitment mode. That sounds weird I know, but if you can sit up a little taller, ask a few more questions, act a little more confident, and just “turn on” a more outgoing version of yourself it may help. I’m not saying to not be yourself, cause that’s the most important thing, but just fake it till you make it confidence wise. I do the same thing now if I have an interview or something where extroverts tend to have the upper hand. Overall being an introvert isn’t a big deal, there are plenty in sororities. Just BE YOURSELF and you’ll be fine, turning it on a little might just help people see who you are in the short amount of time you have to talk. Also, if it makes you feel better, the active is really the one who is trained to keep the conversation going.
#7 by: Update
While I was stunned at the turn this post took, I thought I would provide an update. I am the OP who was worried because I am such an introvert. I just wanted to let you (and any other shy people considering recruitment) know that I had a great experience and wound up in a house that I think it a perfect fit for me. Almost everyone I met was warm and receptive and it was easy at most of the houses to get into an easy conversational give-and-take. I was able to eliminate the houses that I didn't think would be a good fit (mainly because I'm not a party kind of person). Of those that remained, I had a real connection with many girls and, in the end, had three great choices. I am proud that I ventured out of my comfort zone and gave recruitment a try. But mainly I am proud to wear the letters of my first choice and to be part of this great system. Thanks for the good advice. And to those who were so weird, I don't think I encountered even ONE sociopath! LOL
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by: YesAug 6, 2018 12:37:02 PM
^That's good advice. I have always been painfully shy, though I am making strides. Recruitment wasn't easy for me because I never like to have that much attention focused on me or to talk about myself. But, joining a house was the best thing I could have done. I have made fabulous friends, have gotten involved in some great charity efforts, have had lots of academic support to keep my grades high and have a great social life. I also will be an officer this year, which will be my second year living in the house. I think you should make the effort and you might be surprised at how well you do.
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