heartbreak time
by: Lurker
Now it gets tough. Many PNMs are left with houses they thought would be in their rear view mirror. Their hearts are breaking. But I encourage you to weigh lots of options before making a rash decision and going home. This is why:
1) You can find friends in any house. The sororities and pledge classes here are so large that you can find a common bond even if it might not seem that way now. 2) If it gets down to the last day and you are still very unhappy with your choices, you have just one decision to make. Do you want to be Greek or not? If you do, you can find a sisterhood in any house. If you don't, that's OK, too. There is not just one right choice. 3) If you decide to go Greek, embrace it and give it your best shot. That way if you decide later it's not for you and you leave there will be no regrets. 4) If you are happy with just one of your choices, you can suicide. But do it with the understanding that you might very well wind up with nothing. That's OK, too. 5) If rush doesn't go your way and you find yourself not part of the Greek system for whatever reason, embrace that, too. Work on making strong friendships in the dorm and consider them your "sisterhood." You only live in a sorority house one year anyway, and then you move to an apartment. You can be just as close to your friends in the dorm and live with them later off campus (on in a dorm for a 2nd year). Good luck and no matter what happens, you have a wonderful year - and life - ahead of you.
Comment#2 by: Yes to this
So much truth in this. As you go through rush you get all wrapped up in the process and your feel like it's the end of the world if you don't get asked back to the houses you had your heart set on. Take a step back. Read this post over and over if you need to, and realize this is just one blip on the screen. You gave it your best shot and perhaps things worked out really well. Or perhaps they didn't. But you will have all sorts of experiences going forward that will help define who you are and what you make of them. Being Greek, or not, is just one of them. Good luck to you all and no matter what, keep your head held high. You tried, you learned, life goes on.
#3 by: Correct
Before I went through rush my (real) sister told me all you can do is the best you can do. The rest is out of your hands. I can't tell you how often I thought of that. I wound up in a house I didn't expect to be in, but it all worked out really well for me. I did the best I could and I know y'all are, too. The rest is out of your hands.
#5 by: The Best
^This thread is what got me through rush. I don't know who contributed, but I can tell you it made a difference. As one person said, I did the best I could do and everything else was out of my hands. I am proud of myself for sticking with it and I am proud of myself for adjusting my expectations on the fly. Mainly I am proud to be a member of the Greek system. So thanks.
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