worst experience during recruitment

Even by Phi Mu and Tri Sig? Are you a sophomore? Are your grades bad?

Yes really. I'm a sophomore with a 3.6 GPA. I went to 7 after 1st round, only 2 yesterday and got a call this morning I had no options. System failed me twice. I am very involved with other clubs so I at least have that. I had rec letters and a friend in every house too.

Thanks for the negative comment about Phi Mu and Tri Sig "Really?"

Way to go perpetuating stereotypes - you suck!

I am so sorry! Cob is always an option still. And as much as people do not want to acknowledge it, Phi Mu and Tri Sigma do cut girls during recruitment. I've had a friend experience that. I think what actually happens is Phi Mu and Tri Sigma sometimes make the mistake of cutting some of the girls who are really interested in them and focus on recruiting the girls who are actually iffy about joining or not interested at all.

You make it sound like Phi Mu and Tri Sig have to take ANYONE who goes through recruitment - and they don't.

And they aren't necessarily making a mistake if they cut girls who they believe don't fit into their house.

Why try to make them sound desperate, when they - like any other house at Mizzou - want to make improvements to their sisterhood through the recruitment process?

I really wish I could talk to you or hug you. Please know that the system does fail people and that you are wonderful. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Did you do COB last spring? Sophomore formal rush is brutal.

You might as well try to COB this year.

Work on your presentation--did you look good and put together? Work on your conversation skills. Make friends with girls who are members of chapters that are realistic for you to join (think about which chapters are most likely to COB this spring and get to know some of the girls--this works on two levels...it lets you figure out if the girls are the type you could connect with and if they are and you become friends with them then you will have a connection in the house).

If you want to try again, I would legitimately work on becoming friends with all of the sorority girls in chapters who are likely to do COB in the spring (Sigma, Zeta, etc.)

are you plus sized? Because unfortunately (and I don't agree with this or think it's right) that can make a difference at some houses

I will try to COB but I'm sure as a sophomore it won't happen. I do have friends in many houses that even wrote rec letters. I'm work out and a size 2. I tried to cob in the spring but many houses said they were not since quota went down. You would think quota would be the same every year. Hoping girls drop and quota goes up in spring so I have one last shot. Being a part of Greek life was one of the reasons I chose Mizzou. I wish I knew going in that it was so difficult so I could have prepared. Do any houses COB right away if girls don't accept their bid?

I would ask friends in the houses to see if anyone is going to COB this fall (it's possible but may not be likely)

And keep asking about COB in the Spring. My house COB'd last spring but we kept it on the down low and the PNMs needed an insider invite from a couple of sisters. I also know that TriSig did because my roommate was thrilled to be able to join.

As a sophomore you're going to need to keep an extremely open mind. Do you have friends in TriSig/Zeta/PhiMu/SigKap/KD? If so, can you meet their sisters and also become friends with them so that you have more of a chance/foothold? And ask about COB events.

If they cut you on something so minor as a coughing attack, then they weren't the right house for you.

If they cut you for having a cough attack that says a lot about them. What kind of sister would that person be when you actually needed something? Would they drop everything to help you out?

Signs point to no.

I hope you figured that out. All that glitters isn't gold.

Are you SURE it was a promise and not a " I really want you to be an XYZ?" Sometimes girls confuse an active been entrusted with a promise

Maybe I was mistaken, but I swear they said something like they could see me as one of their sisters.

That's NOT promising you a bid. Of course the person talking to you wants you to think she could see you as one of their sisters: you made it that far. But the only person who can promise you a bid is the rush chair who personally takes you aside to tell you that. Otherwise it's not a promise, just a word of encouragement.

That is not promising a bid, that is what the active was told to say so that you would feel like they paid attention to you and were nice.

Really? I thought Pi Chis were supposed to tell you to stick it out.

No, a Pi Chi can suggest you consider dropping if they truly believe you will not be happy with a house so as to avoid a resignation.

It is easy to tell the girls who were cut to sit back, reevaluate and try again.

The fact that this recruitment was such a disappointing mess rests squarely on the shoulders of the PHA Exec Officers.

If there is to be a change in how things were handled, there needs to be a shake up in the PHA leadership.

Rush is always difficult. This year was no exception. Well, except for a lot more whining. There is a reason our sorority system is so outstanding. You really have to stand apart to make it. I feel bad for those who didn't, but as long as standards remain high it will always be that way.