legacy question

This might be the STUPIDEST post I've read on this site. You don't join a house to be in your biological sisters sorority, that makes no sense. #1 OP might want to be in an academic house and not a party house, she didn't specify. # 2 since you're obv an ADPi what if your biological sister had been in Zeta or Alpha Phi? Would your "love for your sister" be enough to make you join a "dumb party house"?

I love my sister more than any friend I could make, and I am proud to be sisters in every sense of the word. Yes, she pledged a house that might not have been my first choice had I been the older sister. And on the last day of rush I had the choice of two top tier houses and one mid-tier. But blood is thicker than water and so I put her mid-tier house, which now also is my house, at the top of the list. I don't know what the OP's family dynamic is, and I don't know why she would want to embarrass her sister by not choosing her house. But there is much more to life than the superficialities of four years of college. Sororities on the campus are so huge that you can find all types of people under one roof. You can make friends anywhere, and I have. But I only have one true sister and I can't think of anything more important than the love we have for one another.

How does pledging her house show your love though ?

It shows that your family connection is more important than superficial stuff. And it shows that you aren't interested in embarrassing your older sister because, I can assure you, if you have a sister in the house and you don't pledge that house after they have put you on the top of their bid list (as they are required to do for legacies) that is a real slap in the face. If she is a senior when you are a freshman and you are convinced that you don't want to lower yourself to her standard, then wait a year until she is out of the house.

In this situation since Sigma is "bottom" I could see that but I don't see how in general joining a different sorority would change anything between sisters. Literally makes no difference, I don't even think you should be a legacy of a sorority unless your mom was in it personally

Sure glad I'm not YOUR sister. How superficial do you have to be to opt for a sorority you know virtually nothing about instead of the one your sister chose and loves? So what you're saying is that it's better to be "cool" than to respect your sister's choice of friends and traditions. I truly didn't know there were people like you on this earth. But mark my words, we will figure out who you are and cut you the first day.

I think you're strange, dramatic and weirdly obsessed with your sister... You choose the house that you fit in with, no one said anything about picking a house because it's "cool." Damn I can't stand ADPi's

How in the world would you know this if you haven't gone through rush? Who are you to tell active members of a sorority what their priorities should be? Why would you place a higher priority on your own comfort than your sister's? How selfish can you be? How could you possibly know for sure that you would fit with some random house rather than one where you have an important connection? I have never heard anything so ridiculous. You know, if you didn't like your sister, why not just say that? And if you are not the OP or have not been in this situation, why in the world would you be so emotionally invested, right down to accusing someone of being in the house you hate the most. You are one strange troll.

I am really curious about what adpi did to this "^" girl for her to hate them so much and post all over this forum about it.

I am not the OP, I'm an active and you are severely mentally unstable

The way I see it, if you are willing to stab your own real sister in the back, imagine what you would do to a sorority sister?

The way I see it, if you consider your sister's choice of sorority a stab in the back, you need to seek help.

Telling people they need to seek help simply because they don't agree with you is pretty immature. Can you imagine walking into a shrink's office and saying: "I publicly embarrassed my sister in front of hundreds of her sorority members and let people know that her friends weren't good enough to be my friends. But someone on a cheezey gossip site said that because I consider that a stab in the back I need to spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars seeking psychiatric help. So, Doc, what can you do for me?"

Could you be any more dramatic though ????

Only if you're going for top tier house. Some will fight for you more to "steal" you away from your legacy house, some will cut you immediately if they see your a leg to top tier. Depends on the house

My sister had to make a resume that went to all the houses. They ask you to put info about Greek family associations. So I am assuming that all the houses see this through PHA. My sister is in a top house and she has talked to me about maybe it won't be a good fit for me- it would be cool to be in her house but she says sometimes legacies don't gel w others in their pledge class if they aren't a good fit. She just wants me to have a great experience and that being several years apart we might not spend much time together anyway. I fully expect to spend time w her individually- we are sisters! Still concerned that other houses may give up on trying to recruit me because they assume I will pick the 'top house'

Just to clear things up: On the Mizzou PHA application, when you put that you are a legacy or a tie to a house only that house can see it. PHA does this so there are no unfair judgements, or disadvantages for putting your affiliations with certain houses.

Example: If you are a legacy for Alpha Alpha Alpha, only that house can see it. None of the other sororities can.

Putting that you are a legacy or a tie for a house CAN ONLY HELP YOU. Mizzou rush is very competitive so by including this information you are maximizing your chances.

Unless you have been a member of every single sorority, you can't possibly know where your sister will fit in. You would be relying on stereotypes and anyone reading the posts on this site knows how inaccurate they are. So, nice try. But blood should be thicker than water.

To c'mon now
Onviously I am not a member of any other house. But as I said I know girls in almost every house very well. We hang out, we are friends, I have known some for many years. I have met their sorority sisters. Some in pledge classes above and below mine. All houses have some common themes. I don't know some of the so called bottom houses well. Maybe they have a wider variety due to them getting girls unmatched elsewhere. But seriously- I am obviously leaving it up to her to decide. It worked out fabulously for me. Why shouldn't I trust her judgement. My point is not to put undue pressure on your family. My best friend didn't choose her mom's legacy house. She and her dad are more similar than her mom and she connected better with another house. Her mom was disappointed but not surprised because she knew her daughter. This sigma legacy should choose for herself and not be ridiculed for it on here. Sometimes the commenters on this site are so destructive!

I think there's only one raging lunatic who feels that you need to choose your sisters sorority LOL

Your attitude is perfect! Please don't mind that crazy girl saying choosing a different house would be a stab in the back, I don't think almost anyone would see it that way. I suspect she was just a troll because I really can't imagine anyone having that attitude

I totally agreed with her. My older sister was a junior when I was a freshman and encouraged me to make up my own mind. She didn't want to influence me in any way. But I also knew what a great experience she had in her house and how important it was to her. I went through rush and couldn't find another house that was equal, much less better for me than hers. So now we're sisters by birth AND sisters by choice. And there's nothing like it. It's one of the best decisions I ever made.

And now that I have been on the other side of rush, I understand how devastating it would have been for her if I had opted for another house. I sure am happy I didn't put her through that.

And one more thing. My sister and I are VERY different people. She's artsy, I'm athletic. We're both smart, but she was in pre-dent and I'm in accounting. But there are hundreds of women in our house and there are just as many women like me as there were women like her. That's the great part about huge houses and big pledge classes. You can find all kinds oe people and make great friends no matter what type of person you are.