You should all be shamed of yourselves.

Listen a lot of people get dropped it’s the end of the world grandma.

Was she rude to actives? Was her social media presence off putting? Anything that you DONT know about her that maybe the houses do know? Lots of reasons she could have been dropped. If she’s interested, tell her to COB or work on building relationships over the next year and rush again in the fall.

And pro tip - she’s an adult now! She doesn’t need mommy fighting her battles for her.

Look, the thing is that almost all of the 2,000 ppl rushing had high grades, talent, and beauty. How should a sorority pick when they're all talented and gorgeous? We don't know how your daughter performed during the parties. Maybe she got nervous and her conversations just weren't flowing or something. Or maybe she had favorite sororities and didn't give all of the sororities a chance?

I’m sorry this is happening to you and your daughter.

Most women find their Greek homes at Bama IF they maximize their options and treat ALL houses and their members with respect. There are lovely OOS women in all chapters, and several houses have realized that recruiting great OOS women with no connections to the “top” houses is the key to building an amazing sisterhood.

Your daughter may be a rare case who somehow fell through the cracks at no fault of her own, but the vast, VAST majority of PNMs who approach the process with open hearts and an open minds are successful in recruitment.

Marching band told me everything I needed to know lol

Did she have recs? Did she maximize her options?

First of all, there are hundreds of girls with 4.0 GPA, extracurriculars, volunteer work, and are beautiful going through recruitment. None of that stands out, it's just the standard basic peer group. Second, over half the girls in recruitment come from out of state and the same for the girls in the sororities. Being out of state doesn't stand out either. So the two things you mention are not significant enough to either get a bid or prevent getting a bid.

Conversations, social skills, confidence, making the most of your looks, and your social media have to be tiptop in addition to the grades and resume.

I know you love your smart, talented, beautiful daughter and your heart is aching for her, but instead of casting blame and making her a victim, you can help her to figure out exactly what might have gone better and make this another of those teachable moments after emotions calm down. Self-awareness is a vital life skill. If she figures this out she can get a bid through COB or go through again next fall and write her own ticket, it happens all the time. This is an opportunity, no lie.

I’m very sorry this happened to your daughter. Sometimes people just have really bad luck. I’m sure your daughter is wonderful.

Marching band pretty much sums up why

Yeah because no one from out of state gets in a sorority at UA. That was definitely it. And this is sarcasm if you can't tell.