When Best to Drop?

You can’t make a decision after one week. There’s a reason they chose you and you chose them. Reach out to your pledge class leaders, make more of an effort to connect with your pledge class. Give it time.

Seriously keep trying. It gets better I promise. So many people feel this way. Once you start having swaps and things you’ll find your group I promise.

It can be hard to be the one in your roommate group that got into a higher ranked sorority, also. Next year- if you stick it out- you will be with friends from your house. Keep going. This happened to me and my roommates got more passive aggressive as the year went on. It hurt but I made great friends in my house and now I know I’m better off and I’m much happier.

U won’t be able to COB. U can’t rush again until next year. Stick it out a little longer typically it gets better. If u r still questioning things don’t get initiated bc u can’t join another sorority after u r initiated.

The only way to COB is drop out of rush before u get a bid. It’s too late for u.

Do try longer and talk to ur new member chair about ur feelings

Thank you so much for the responses.

I don’t want anyone to think that my roommates have been anything but awesome towards me. If anything, I’m the one that’s a bit jealous of them because they have formed sorority friend groups and are doing lots of social things with them, and I feel lonely.

I’ll think about talking to my new member chair. I’m just afraid that talking to her could make it worse instead of better. I don’t want to be labeled as the ungrateful & problematic girl.

I messed up by saying COB. I meant to ask if I want to go through formal recruitment again as a sophomore, does it matter to houses when I dropped out of my current house? Like, is it better to drop out early rather than closer to initiation? Or does when I dropped not really matter? I know it will already be a possible mark against me, so if I do decide to drop, if there is advice on what would hurt me the least for next year, I’d appreciate it.

1. Eat every meal at the house. You will get to know so many more girls

2. Go to every event your house has. I promise there are others in your pledge class that feel just like you - you just have to find them.

3. Speak to your new member team. If other girls do too, they can connect you all together.

Here's the thing, all those groups you're seeing of seemingly closed-off girls? These are NOT going to stay the same. No one has had time to actually make all their lasting friends yet. Things will seem different in the coming months, I promise you, as people actually get to know each other. Keep going to meals, events, walk to classes with your sisters, and you'll make real friends.

It gets better.

Give it time! It is all so overwhelming at first. You've got this, girl!

Please try to stick it out a little longer. I promise you it gets better! Join a committee or ask to help with an event. That way you’ll be working on something so you’re not forced just to make small talk. Do enough of this, and you’ll naturally meet people. The friend group I started with isn’t the one that I really clicked with. That came second semester. Also, a big will definitely be a huge help. And, like everyone has said, it’s literally only been a week. Keep a positive attitude and just show up! You’ve got this!