Dropping my sorority

If you truly aren’t happy, don’t waste the expense of dues to remain in it because of fear. Greek life isn’t for everyone and you aren’t less of a person for that. Your letters don’t equal your worth.

As far as being shunned, that depends entirely on your friend group; their attitudes and your personal relationship with them will determine all. If you drop, you must still pay whatever outstanding fees are required for rest of the semester or year, whether you participate or not, so figure that into your timing. If you don't want to eat your meals there you still have to pay the meal plan, etc. After dropping, since you are no longer a member and no longer paying dues, you have no more privileges or right to be at your old sorority whatsoever, and may not participate in any activities. The only exception would be if it is the kind of event where non-members are allowed as guests, but you would have to be specifically allowed, you can't just show up and expect it to be okay. You can't have it both ways; you're either in or out. Your sorority will have rules and guidelines as to what your new status would be; alumna in good standing, or inactive member, or not in good standing, or whatever.

Being shunned depends entirely on people's attitudes and your relationship with them. You are talking about a large group of people so some may and some may not. No one can possibly answer that for you.

If you drop you get dropped by the friends you made only bc you were in the same house and no you can’t go to the house or any functions—that’s members only.

This isn’t a real person. It’s for research. Want one in a house knows you can’t continue to go to stuff if you drop.

So if I quit my job can I still go to the company Christmas party and company picnic and that fun business conference in Orlando and still have access to the company box for ballgames? Or will I be blacklisted and shunned?

i dropped my sorority and once you drop, yeah the rules are a little different. it’s not like you go back to being a rando geed in the sorority’s eyes, you’re considered an ex XYZ. i’m not allowed to come hang out on bid day, not allowed to drop by and have lunch or dinner at the house even as a guest, can’t participate in my family’s big/little reveal, and my friends can’t take me as their date to date parties. my house has a popular date party and that date party is the only function i’ve seen exec turn a blind eye to sisters bringing friends who’ve dropped. and i’ve also only seen older members do it, like seniors and maaybe popular juniors. me and my friends are seniors too, so sometimes exec isn’t even sure of who we are lol and just figure we don’t go to the house or events very often

depending on your chapter and the exec, exec could turn more of a blind eye about that stuff. especially if exec likes you.

but ya it sucks lol you should definitely start making friends with girls in other chapters, geeds or other girls who’ve dropped. idk how i would’ve survived the fall semester without my 5th year roomies (1 was in my sorority but dropped a while back, the other went early alum in her chapter) bc i couldn’t go anywhere my sorority friends did. i always have to meet up with them later or out now :/

To anyone that really is considering and is a freshman, I would try one more fall semester. My PC became rly close during recruitment. You have long hours together and then the rewarding bid day and it really brings people together. Especially if your sorority has a lot of different cliques. You’ll have a whole new group of girls, little, and a lot of exciting things happening. If you’re still not feeling it after then then I would drop.

A good friend in my chapter dropped and she was devastated after. She felt like no one was making an effort to meet up or speak to her but the reality was was that we were busy with chapter obligations and most of the only times we saw each other was during chapter events or at the house. It ended with her just being really angry at us and us deciding that the drama was not worth our time.

Another friend of mine dropped from a mid - some argue top house and she told me after finding out everyone wished her the best but then quickly after it was all over active members unfollowed her and unfriended her. She was really upset about it. She made a nasty post on facebook calling out her old chapter for it, which only made things worse.

Just understand that it will be completely different and not everyone's opinion about your choice will be what you were hoping for. But, don't burn any bridges and make sure you make new friends that don't have so many obligations. Just remember that it's not your fault if your old friends from the chapter or greek life don't hang out with you as much. It is just something that will probably happen and it has nothing to do with you as a person. Good luck with your choice!