why i dropped from rush

Thank you! I feel like girls have treated me REALLY badly for dropping but it wasn’t because I was being disrespectful or didn’t feel like some house wasn’t good enough for me, it was because this experience has been really horrible for me and I didn’t expect it at all

this is so refreshing to see that other girl feel the same way. i do have a good gpa, and ive gotten full cards for the past two rounds but the houses ive loved have dropped me each round. i just think zoom has really limited rush. like actives cant get a good feel for the pnms and the other way around. i feel bad because ive put so much time finding recs, making a resume, and etc but i dont join a sorority if i dont love it

Y’all are brats

1). Rush can be overwhelming. You may find that the COB process is less stressful, and you may find a sorority you like this fall or next spring that way.
2). If your high school GPA was an obstacle, think now about what you can do differently to ensure that your first year grades at Alabama are stronger. There are fantastic resources on campus for writing or tutoring support, but you have to seek out the help.

Real talk I know y’all think in person would be different but I hate to tell y’all this... WE KNOW WHO WE WANT BEFORE WE EVEN SAY HI TO YOU. We spend all summer picking our bid list. Nothing would have been different. Even if we had a killer conversation chances are if you weren’t on our list already you would get a bid. I know this sounds harsh but it’s the true reality

What makes you think your rush next year will be better? If they didn’t want you now they aren’t going to want you then.

honestly i get all you guys wanting to blame it on zoom but these feelings about rush happen for PNMs every year. it’s a super stressful experience and it can definitely take a hit to your confidence. that’s a big part of why rho chis have to go through so much training. you may enjoy the COB process more but just be aware your options or going to be a lot more limited when it comes to COBing than they are going through formal recruitment. i’m sorry if your experience with formal hasn’t been a good one and hope you still find your place in greek life!

I don’t know why everyone is being so mean about this. The people who dropped made a choice that was right for them. They haven’t had a good experience for many different reasons. I have more respect for the girls that drop now than the girls who suicide and then whine when they end up bidless. If it’s not for them right now it’s not for them.

News flash. Actives know if you have rushed and dropped out. If they didn't like you once then that probably won't change. Girls have very serious medical and family issues during rush and somehow make it through. Zoom is just an excuse. Rush is a BRUTAL process mentally and usually physically. Running from house to house after sitting outside in the hot Alabama heat day after day is exhausting and trying. Not sitting in your air conditioned rooms with sweatpants on under your dress.Try being confident when sweat is making your makeup run down your face. And I hate to break it to you but most girls who COB never went through formal recruitment so houses aren't as prejudgmental, most girls that get bids are already friends with a group of the actives. You aren't the queen of your small town high school club anymore and you're in a big girl world full of girls who rather judge you by what you wear, what your room background looks like, and what kind of financial support you can bring to the chapter.

Welcome to rush at Alabama, it’s brutal no matter what year. This is one of the most competitive, if not the most competitive recruitment in the country. Be proud of making it this far. Don’t take it personal, it it what it is. RTR