Is it a bad sign if you’re not rushed hard

yes you can still get a bid from a top house!! some girls just aren’t on our radar because they may not know actives from hs, insta, etc. and we just haven’t picked up on you yet, doesn’t mean anything about how your rush will go, don’t stress over it!

i was also super stressed bc i'm from oos and i only knew one friend group in a sorority here prior to rush but we were never really too friendly or got along that well. no one really interacted with me on social media other than them and it freaked me out because i thought i was going to end up with them as my only choice or even worse, get dropped by them, too. during rush i ended up clicking with a house that i never thought i would, and they rushed me very hard. it was super flattering and definitely the main reason i went there. though there are girls in my pc that you can tell they wanted from the start, i don't really feel any less wanted for it. everyone in a pledge class was somewhere on the bid list for a reason!