i don't know what to do....

The "the girls who left recruitment because they did not like what they had left" did it to themselves. They chose to quit instead of giving the organizations that ACTUALLY LIKED THEM a chance.

Sorry, there is no feeling bad for those girls.

Girls who really tried, but were just too awkward to make it and were released...now those are the girls I actually feel bad for.

I meant in Greek Life, obviously.

If it's THAT important to them to be in a sorority or fraternity, I'd say yes, transfer. Of course....what happens if they don't get into a sorority or fraternity at the smaller school?

Should being in a sorority or fraternity be THAT important to anyone? I don't think it should. I enjoy my frat, but I could live a happy life without it.

My parents said the same thing. There were independents who chose to be so, but the self proclaimed GDIs hated Greeks in general and put this label on themselves. They also dont remember a lot of arguing about top tiers, etc. Houses were competitive but not like it is now. Maybe it has to do with the internet and all the self ranking. My mom said when girls went thru "rush" they were looking for where they felt they fit it not just trying to get in a top tier. My mom also is confused about "old row." All she remembers is that it pertained to frats and where their houses were located. She doesn't remember anything about "old row" sororities and she was in one that is "old row" now. She still has friends from her sorority but none of them are involved at all other than to do recs for people who ask and give money.

Come off a little more constructive if you didn't use "GDI" to refer to your independent friends. #justsayin

Whoops, sometimes I forget the outside world sees GDI as derogatory. My friends and I find it funny and not insulting at all. Please excuse the misunderstanding, it's an inside joke.

These days a lot of people use GDI to mean all independents but not in a bad way. Both my parents are Greek but when they were actives in the early 80's, GDI always meant someone was anti-Greek and usually a major hater. I once said I'd be okay as a Greek or a GDI, and they wanted to know how I could be okay liking something OR okay hating it. My mom said independent is fine but don't be a GDI, and I said aren't they the same thing? :) Pretty confusing conversation until we figured out we had different understandings of what a GDI is.

Has kind of a negative association at Bama -- bitter anti-Greek Mallet types.

Sorry, but who exactly are you talking to? Not sure how you meant it, but your "it seems as if you have not found yours" sounds snarky, which probably didn't make the OP feel any better if that's who you're directing this at. Obviously she hasn't found her organization yet or this whole thread wouldn't be here. She's asking for help, not snotty comments about what she already knows she hasn't found. If you're talking to the people saying there's different ideas of what GDI means, nobody said they weren't Greek. "Well" sounds like she/he is Greek. I'm "Yeah" and even tho I told my parents I'd be okay Greek or not, I ended up Greek. You're right, it's not so hard (who said it was?) and it seems I did find my right organization. I hope the OP does, too.

What??? That las post was a little incoherent.

I'm not "Truth" but I think this poster was a bit blunt in saying: move on, and look elsewhere for happiness.