i don't know what to do....

If all your friends are greek... ask them to recommend you. If they won't, well maybe you need to focus on spending more time away from them meeting new people.

Sorry is hasn't worked out yet, but having friends in sororities can be an asset. Do your sorority friends know you signed up for COB and that you're interested in them? I have a friend at another SEC school who didn't have a good rush during formal, but let some girls on her hall know that she was really interested in their sorority (but not in a creepy way.) As of last week, they told her they had put her name in to be invited to some COB events that are coming up. A lot of COB invites go to girls that some members know, but not everyone will see who is signed up, so make sure friends know you are. I hope it all works out for you.

I had a 3.05 on a non-traditional 5.0 scale which was done at my top 10% best high school in the nation to reduce grade inflation, I had recs, I am well groomed( a pageant girl), from a good family and my friends have referred me to there houses which have had events and given out bids but I didn't get one... I have never been rejected from very much before and I just don't know what to do.

I didn't rush fall because of my GPA from high school. I feared that I was going to get dropped and did not want to go through the whole process to end up being rejected completely. I made the decision not to rush fall and decided I would do spring or as a sophomore so I could get my grades up and wouldn't be put at a disadvantage because of my GPA. So for me, this whole COB in the fall kind of sucks because I was going to use the fall semester to get my grades up so I could do COB spring most likely. Part of the reason I chose Alabama was because of the greek life. I totally get where you're coming from, I too love Alabama and could not see myself anywhere else. I get this amazing feeling when I am here and I am genuinely happy. Just like you though, there is a part of me that feels left behind or left out and like I am missing something not just for the social aspect of it but also the sisterhood. I am meant to be in a sorority, I know it. A lot of my friends are greek and it can be rough sometimes. Everyone keeps telling me it will all work out So I am hoping and waiting for that time. Hopefully everything works out for you too. Good luck and know you're not alone. I feel the same way!

is not a free pass or an easy way to join. It is an extra and rare chance. If your grades are not good, don't try COB. If you can't look someone in the eye when talking to them, if you can't carry on a conversation, or more importantly, if you can't start a conversation, you shouldn't try COB. If you don't present yourself well, don't try COB.

If you fall into any of these categories, dedicate yourself to making improvements and making connections this year, and go thru formal recruitment next year.

You do realize that SDT has no religious requirement and is NOT affiliated with any one religion, right?

You need a reality check!

SDT's national platform is absolutely NO DIFFERENT from any other sorority's national platform. If you didn't get in during this fall rush, you should give SDT a try and stick it out, if you are lucky enough to get a bid.

Transferring to another school just for greek life makes no sense! That's crazy!

I truly believe your shift in understanding needs to come from within and from without. In other words, you need to understand that even if you get a bid from The Best Sorority Ever, that is not a guarantee that you will be accepted and loved off the top. Sisterhood and brotherhood just doesn't work like that. You may not click in the beginning, you may not click in the end, but hopefully you can make the best of whatever situation you find yourself in IF YOU GET A BID.

Is targeted to a specific type of evangelical Christian. PNMs have to meet very strict requirements just to be considered for membership. They're not for someone who is just looking for a Greek experience.

I get what you're really trying to say without outright saying it. You don't want to be ADX or SDT. Maybe you think they suck or maybe you just don't want to be a part of such a small group that doesn't really have swaps with big fraternities. Whatever. That's fine. I, personally, wouldn't even give them a glance over. It's all about preference. I genuinely think that if it means that much to you and you don't think you'll get a bid next year during formal recruitment, transfer. Some people don't understand that a lot of people come to college for the social aspect as well as education. My only advice is not to go to an SEC school with a big recruitment. This includes Auburn as they will rarely take any upperclassmen, much less one who was cut. A small school with a small greek life will be much more open to taking girls. Do your research and good luck. If you decide to stay and rush again, get everything you need well in advance.

You really need to go talk to a professional. Your attitude doesn't sound normal from what I'm reading.