wwyd- i hate my new house

Grow up.
If you can’t find ONE girl you connect with in a house full of 400 something girls, that’s a YOU problem, not them. Put yourself out there and work harder to find your tribe.

If I were you, I'd get off greek rank and stop trolling.

It’s been just a week. I think it is normal after alllll the hell of rush week to maybe feel a bit of a let down after you finally get a house after all that work. Maybe you have a dud for a bid day big, etc.
Give it one more week, maybe 2 more weeks, although you’ve definitely seen a big part of the group this past week because most houses would have the programming in place to make sure you hang out with your pc and upperclassmen.
If you still don’t click with your house, bow out and go through rush next year.

The original responder was a greekchat biddy for sure, always assume someont thinks theyre better than others. Get over it! You must have felt rejected by PNMs in your sorority decades ago

Not sure if this is a troll or not but going to err on the side of a real question. This is a common feeling. After being the center of attention from your parents in the run up to school and then through rush, you are now into the real world of college. You are no longer the center of attention. We actives have classes, clubs, and other friends to connect with in and out of the house. We are exhausted from planning for recruitment and then the actual rush which was MUCH more demanding on us than any PNM. We might have started internships, TA, and we are trying to keep up these insane GPAs. We want you to have a great time and bond with us but you are not our only priority. Give the swaps a chance but don't believe everything you see on your insta. While tons of fun, they can be awkward at first until you find your people and even then they are some are only OK. You might float in and out of several groups before you find them. That's ok. They are there. At study hours you will start to find those in your major or in your classes. Eat at the house and hang out there as much as possible. You will find sisters who are there hanging out. The first philanthropy events are another place to meet your sisters and work towards a cause so important to your house identity. Games days are awesome but this first one might be awkward, especially if you didn't know a lot of people coming into UA from your hometown. With the game being in Atlanta it might be hard to find your place. Opening home game will be so different. Hang in there. Realize that this is going on with all new members in all houses. Find a friend for now.The besties will grow with time. Pomping and homecoming are around the corner. Greek week is a blast. Tons of swaps, date parties, football games, and formals are in your future. Many don't find that they completely fit in until next recruitment season when you are going through on the other side. THEN you realize all that your sisterhood means to you and you find your best friends. This is not instant bonds for life and you won't click with all 400 girls. But you will find your group and you will share that common sisterhood. Finally, this is college. Our sororities are important to us but we are here for our education. What time is left over we want to have fun and relax too. We are headed to the bars and fraternities with our friends, many from different houses, and we don't want to play social director every night for someone new. You will find your place if you forget the one the got away and embrace the house that actually wanted you. That other house is no better and the new sisters in those houses are feeling the exact same way.

Just quit. Your favorite chapter will realize they made a mistake by dropping you and give you a bid next year for sure. Everybody knows this right?

What is it that you can’t stand about the house or all 400+ members? Seriously, you need to be able to explain what you don’t like if you want advice on how to proceed.

It’s VERY normal and common to have huge FOMO over your 1st choice and idolize everything their PC is doing.

But what have you done to make friends at your house? How many girls did you text or DM or meet up with this week? How about last week? You have to be a friend to make friends. And you won’t make any if all you’re doing is moping about not getting your 1st choice. Trust me, we always know the girls who didn’t get their 1st choice. It’s obvious. But most end up loving the chapter that picked them!

It is awkward now, but you will soon make connections. There is no magic happening at the other house, new members there are having to try to make friends out of strangers there too.

Keep reaching out. You have until initiation to see if things work out.

I did get my favorite house, the one I fell in love with day one, and post big day also felt Very confused and unsure.

The girls on the floor that also pledged my house bonded very closely as they were roommates, but didn’t want anyone else to be a part of their group, I didn’t really mesh with my post bid trip roommate, and I was also adjusting to life away from home.

It has all turned out to be wonderful, but not sure what you’re feeling is related to the house you got as much as it is general first semester blues.

For me I got a great big, and begin to make connections in the house, and as I noted it did turn out fine

You will be ok. Give it more time.I was in your position not too long ago. Chances are there are other girls in your house feeling the same way- you need to find each other. It is hard if it's not your first choice. But I know in our house the alumnae would toss girls out right and left just to pare it down- don't take it personally. The girls who wanted you probably really did and were upset with what happened too. Alumnae at Alabama are notorious for sifting though resumes and tossing anyone not from their own hometown. It isn't like this at all schools and it needs to change. But in the meantime there are other girls in your house, I guarantee you who are in the same situation as you are. Give it a good few months before you throw in the towel. It is hard. Adjusting to college is hard even without all of this thrown on you. Give yourself a little break and be kind to yourself. It's ok to go through all these feelings. These are normal feelings- you aren't a bad person for feeling them at all and you aren't the only one that's for sure. You will be ok and I'm sure you will find girls you like in your house and may even rise up to leadership positions not available in the other houses. Then next year, recruit new friends! You have this, you can do this! Good luck! Your house wanted YOU. Every house dropped people- but this house saw something in you, something special!