bad start

You weren't there and you only heard her impression. UA has a huge rush and it can be stressful, but there is nothing you can do but support her and soothe her. Your daughter is not you. This is her school, her rush, and her now. Your 'top' house somewhere else in another generation doesn't mean a thing.

What specifically made her feel insecure? Was it something that was said to her or is she just overwhelmed by the magnitude of recruitment at UA? I find it hard to believe any house at UA would intentionally make a PNM feel insecure.

To that mom above, yes rush is very stressful, especially at UA.. It is actually the biggest sorority rush in the country according to Town & Country magazine, and it's just a little over the top.

Your job as a mom is just to continually encourage your girl, and teach her to trust her own impressions. And no matter WHAT sorority she ends up in, keep up with the encouragement! It doesn't matter how much a girl has going on for her-- looks, grades, personality--, at end of the day, these are a bunch of 18-22 yr old girls in these sorority houses (with rarely listened to input from alums) and they're deciding something that SEEMS and FEELS so important in the moment, but is not that significant. EVERY sorority at UA is a "good" sorority, where she will find deep and lasting friendships and where she will find her home away from home. I have said for many years you could literally divide the rushees up into equal parts, assign them to a sorority randomly, and it would turn out just as well!

When she gets cut by her legacy house please just hold your tongue and tell her that it doesn't matter to you and that she will find the home she belongs in without sharing her letters with you.

Man, trolls aren't even trying anymore.

no one cares about your sorority granny. how embarrassing to be on here at your age

Sort of worried by your comment that your house and other top houses would not cut her. I hope you did not tell your daughter that, because that is absolutely not true here. Most houses here have so many legacies, they could fill their pledge classes with them, so there is a VERY good chance your legacy house might cut your daughter. Unfortunately, with so many legacies, lots have to be cut.

The absolute best thing you can keep mentioning that all the houses here are great and to encourage her to focus only on the houses that keep inviting her back and quickly let go of her disappointments over the houses that let her go. Tell her she is great as she is, and she should focus on being herself. Help her realize she will make great friends in any house!

Hope upon hope you (both) don’t end up in my house!