perception versus reality

How much pressure did y'all get from high school friends to join a certain house?

When i can through rush i was absolutely dying to be a KD. i’m southern our of state, and the town i came from all girls, no matter what school they went to, were KDs. Nobody went to Alabama though. But when I came through rush I realized I just didn’t fit in there. I had my heart set on them and it really upset me when they weren’t what I pictured, but my heart was still broken when they dropped me before pref. It wasn’t meant to be, though.
I ended up prefing tri delt, kappa, and zeta and i couldn’t be happier in my house now!!!!

I went to an instate high school where most of my older school friends had gone to about 3 houses. I didn't want those houses for that reason. I wanted separate college friends, not just a super squad of h s friends. That put me in a house with a lot of oos girls and one that my mom and her friends were pretty sure would be the end of the world. I loved it though and can highly recommend striking out on your own. Make sure you choose wisely after IWT. If you are from a certain area, houses you may like may drop you because they think you'll go to those houses that take the majority from your area.

DG impressed me and i went far with them but went OR and happy. DG are good girls tho

You couldn’t help yourself! DG ALWAYS gets referenced and always glowing remarks. I am a PNM and honestly I’ve been reading every post this summer and see clearly that DG must be filled with insecure girls. It’s the ONE house I do t think I’m going to like!

It is interesting to look back but I went into rush thinking that I would see these immediate differences between tiers and know where I would fall. I read here and was determined to give them a chance but I had ideas. Then I started to mix some of them up. "was this a mid tier? bottom? but I had a great time and the girls were beautiful, friendly, fun so it must be an upper level" By mid week I was all turned around and got confused. Maybe I wasn't a target and was unmatched but at some top tiers I felt out and at some others, one bottom row I felt great. I had trouble keeping the tiers straight and they weren't matching my experience in each house. I ended up in an OR respected and loved house but carried a bottom to pref and actually like many of their sisters. I actually had two consistently top 5 houses and the consistently bottom ranked house left at pref. The differences aren't that stark. If the moms and old alums stayed out of it and we were all honest I think we would realize that these days with 400+ all the houses are filled with awesome women and we could fit in them all.

I was an in-house legacy to a bottom house, and even though I knew great things about the house, I had heard of the bottom ranking and thought I was making a radical choice at pref. I've since learned from my friends who made the same choice, and from my experience as a member, that my choice was not radical at all and lots of PNMs choose this house. I love my house and found great friends who are killing it here. Some on GR say you will miss out socially if in a bottom house, but that is not true. There are so many opportunities to kick it up here, that I am personally challenged to put the party down and pick the books up. Fortunately for me, the house values academics and offers great study support. If I can find wonderful, amazing women in my bottom house and feel it is an honor to be with them, then I am pretty sure plenty of others will find happiness here, or, honestly, any other bottom house as well.