date parties and boyfriends

First and foremost, you should never hold yourself just for a guy. Obviously, I can't judge your relationship because i don't know either of you however it seems that he's just trying to be protective yet in doing such he's holding you back. Of course, you should go to swaps, date parties, and formals. Lots of your future sisters will be drunkenly grinding on frat guys but there are lots of other girls who just like to go out and dance/listen to music with each other. Date parties may be a little more difficult... Obviously you're supposed to bring a date, but it doesnt necessarily need to be a guy and tbh you don't even need to bring a date. You can go solo with some sisters or bring a friend thats not in your house. And same goes for formals.

Please rush and please don't let your boyfriend hold you back from all these amazing upcoming opportunities. I know you don't want to worry him by going out but if you're honest with him then he shouldn't have a problem. I came into my freshman year and I had a boyfriend back home over 1000 miles away and a lot of nights that my house had swaps and date parties I would stay in and talk to him on the phone instead... Obviously because I wanted to but I 100% did miss out on a lot with my house in terms of social events and bonding. And low and behold we actually ended up breaking up.

Good luck!

If I were you, I'd be suspicious about why he doesn't have more time for you. Even if he's at school, he should have time to talk to you, and come out, at least for a formal. Unless that part is a money issue, then I get it. Colleges don't give you time off though. That's weird.

I have a horrible experience trying to keep a high school boyfriend who went to a different school. I didn't join a sorority because he didn't want me to and we broke up Freshman year. Went through recruitment Sophomore year, and got lucky to find a great house and a great group of girls, but I missed a lot Freshman year.

On the other hand, one of my friends has been dating her boyfriend since Freshman year of high school. they go to different universities, are both in greek life and are still going strong. They are lose enough to visit often and make it to big activities, usually.

I went to a ton of date parties without bringing a date my freshman year. So did a lot of my friends. Go to swaps, date parties, everything don't let your boyfriend keep you from experiencing everything your sorority has to offer you. You don't pay thousands in dues to skip out on date parties, which in my opinion are the most fun events at school that I've been been to

Do you think it's still hard to be in a sorority if your boyfriend is going to Bama too

Why so many downvotes for this? The girl literally just asked a question that a LOT of Freshman girls have had to consider. Lots of dumb people around here.

OP......A lot can happen in four years. On the other hand, depending on what branch of service your boyfriend plans to go into, you'll be apart fairly often. It's probably a good test. Do the things you want to do though, and remind him that he must trust you the same way you trust him. That's pretty much the best you can do!

Good luck!

At least your boyfriend accepts that you are rushing. My Freshman roommate's boyfriend threw a hissy about her going through recruitment to the point that he threatened to break up with her if she did. She did, and he didn't break up with her, but when he started in on her not going to any activity that involved fraternities, she broke up with him. He was trying to be so controlling. Not healthy at all.

I'll be honest, I've seen more girls who come here with boyfriends, end up not having those boyfriends by the end of Freshman year, but it can happen. Either way, you are doing the right thing making the best choices for yourself. Good luck, and remember not to talk about boyfriends during Rush. :)

My boyfriend is a year older... and i will admit that I threw a hissy fit when he joined a frat his freshman year lol it was mainly because of the same reasons that your boyfriend has. As a girl still in high school, I was worried about him being around hundreds of drunk sorority girls every weekend. He skipped all of his formals and date parties because he chose to. I actually tried to encourage him to go with a close girl friend of his. Now that i'm rushing, he's freaking out and doesn't even want to speak about the subject of a sorority. He's completely unsupportive of it and said he expects me to skip events such as formals and swaps because he did the same.