bama vs ole miss

Your impression is correct.
Ole Miss sororities are WAY more difficult to get into, partly because there are fewer sororities at Ole Miss.
Those sororities also perfer recs from their own chapter alumnae. Most Alabama chapters are OK with recs from alumnae of any of their chapters.
Remember that Tuscaloosa is a bigger town and close to Birmingham, which has much better shopping options than Oxford or even Memphis.

You should just stay in the North and go to a school with real Greek Life and a good education like Penn State

Bama overall is so much better, especially the Greek life here. I have a friend who goes to ole miss and laughs at their Greek life after she visited here. Trust me it's much better and you should come here instead

was in the same boat and chose ole miss and transferred! if i could do it over i would pick bama

I was in the same boat as you. As a northerner coming into it, Ole Miss seems very traditional and the charm of Oxford lures you in. As you grow older in college however, you long for a university with a little more diversity in it as your tastes and opinions change. Alabama can provide you with a traditional southern experience, but it won't drown you in it. There are more people from the north and out west here, the regional diversity is actually pretty wild. As much as you want to surround yourself with southern culture, there are still lots of things you'll miss about the north and having others from the same area as you will make it a lot easier and you will enjoy yourself more. Bama is a little more cosmopolitain in comparison to Ole Miss, and that is something you'll probably want as you get older. Plus our Greek system is huge and a lot more inclusive than Ole Miss. I am almost positive there are kids from all 50 states in our greek system. That is a cooler experience is you ask me. In conclusion if your a northerner, hands down come to Bama- You'll have better alumni connections after college if you decide to move back home, not to mention Bama is much better in academics.