depressed ... should i still rush

For me rush was brutal (being rejected as a person by your peers never feels good), but I think it was worth it for me. I transferred to Cornell and I was quite lonely until I found my fraternity. Yea I know I could probably find clubs or other ways to make connections, but for some reason something about a brotherhood (Or sisterhood) really brings people together.

So in summary I think it is worth rushing, but be prepared for possible rejection. In terms of telling people about what you do on campus I wouldn’t stress too hard about it. Just tell them what your interest or hobbies are off campus. I rushed in the fall as a transfer with no on campus experience and I still found a house if that tells you anything.

If you go into rush looking for friends and someone to connect with, especially as a guy, you’ll find it. I’m so many stories of people going into rush and meeting people and it absolutely changing their lives. I’d say send it.

Definitely still rush. Bringing up your depression during rush is your choice, but in some later rounds things can get surprisingly deep and if you feel comfortable with who your talking to you can definitly talk about it if you choose. Dw about the “what are you involved in on campus” alot that’s like such a minuscule question and maybe its something like not a structured activity, but you really like going to this place or like hiking or reading or writing etc etc.

there are girls from my sorority who are struggling with mental health (as well as probably most houses, affiliations, just ppl in general), and your depression shouldn't be stigmatized during rush bc that would make houses hypocrites. from my personal experience: going through rush as a sister and talking to pnms, my other sisters and i didn't really care if a pnm aren't involved on campus yet. we ask girls what they do on campus mostly as a talking piece, similar to "what are your hobbies" or "where are you from". it's just an opportunity to be like "omg do u know this person too?" or "thats so cool i was thinking about joining that club too haha we have things in common!!!!" i've never heard of ppl in my sorority saying they're cutting a pnm bc they aren't in any clubs. it's honestly all about attitude. if you seem genuine and say that you're still exploring campus life but you wanna find friends, that's 1000000% normal and okay. now, not being part of clubs bc you find everything boring or you dont like any of the ppl you were in clubs with before, generally things that show you dont have a good attitude or would seem bxtchy, that would be another story.

YOu should still go through with rush. You'll regret it if you don't