social life as non greek girl

I’m re-rushing after dropping out last year for same reason.
You could try the open bid process or go it again next year.
I ended up truly regretting not going with one of the houses that invited me back. I allowed myself to get wooed by the flashier houses and made the mistake of reading the FICTION they post on here and believing it, then had to watch friends have the time of their lives in various middle tier and lower tier houses.
I think you should consider trying again.
There are also service frats that are Co-Ed which I heard are great.
I’m so sorry for you- I remember that feeling well
❤️🙏

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I felt rejected when I didn’t get invited back by the houses I thought I wanted. I nearly quit- but was talked out of it.
I joined a house and consider it the best decision I’ve ever made for myself. You will begin to realize that Everything you learn in rush is a facade. You can’t judge how well you’ll fit in by things you read on here or the hateful things the houses say about one another.
I experience a fabulous sisterhood, I love my friends- I love our social events. Other houses say things about us I know not to be true... but I’m generally too busy living my life to worry about that.
A year later I can’t believe everything I didn’t understand about rush, houses, preffing and just the whole system. They meet you for a handful of minutes and must judge based on the report of only the sister who spoke to you that day. It’s silly.
Please consider sticking with it- joining one of the other houses- seek out other people to talk to- find someone you click with. Join and have fun. This time next year you’ll be so happy you did.

I find it hard to believe you didn’t click with the vibe of any of the houses you were invited back to. You probably only met a small handful of girls and are judging them based on 5% of the information.
You should definitely consider COB process, which would help you get to know girls in a completely different arena than loud speed dating like parties.
Being sorted into a house is not the end of your existence- it’s the beginning. What you do there is up to you.
Don’t fall for superficial rankings or generalizations. Worry more about spending the next three years in a group of people who will build you up.
You’ll be pretty surprised by the level of sisterhood in the houses you think you don’t want.
Don’t hold yourself back.

My good friend dropped out of rush because she didn’t click with houses/it was too expensive. She goes out a ton, probably more than most girls in sororities, and is super social. You’re fine

OP here: to clarify, I dropped right before pref and was sure I did not vibe with my remaining choices- just for perspective :)

You can still be super social while not in a sorority. I know multiple girls who aren’t in sororities that party/go out a lot. In fact, a girl I know who isn’t in a sorority said she believes it may be even better for your social life because you don’t have to be confined to your sorority’s schedule