getting a bid

Speaking for my own chapter, if a sister has personal reasons for disliking a PNM (who is otherwise liked by her sisters) she can go to the chapter's recruitment team and state her case for why she does not want a particular PNM invited back. The recruitment team then decides what to do. Similarly, if a sister wants to keep a PNM who is due to be cut, she can go to the recruitment team and state her case for keeping that PNM. Someone would have to hate or love a PNM to take these steps as each sister is limited to 1 of each per recruitment.

If it's more of a popularity thing, don't worry about that - ie she was like the homecoming queen and you weren't. Girls are open minded about that, but disrespect in the past will haunt you.

In my chapter, we ignore personal reasons based on things like dating your ex-boyfriend or stuff along those lines. But girls will step forward and express concern for people who we are concerned about letting into our sisterhood. So if you had a really bad reputation in high school and we are nervous about having you wear our letters or if someone is just really catty and mean, then we will trust in our sisters and either drop you or keep it in mind for future cuts. If you have an amazing conversation during a round though, in our chapter that girl can speak up on your behalf and "save" you.

I would understand the disrespect thing, maybe not just dating someone's ex, but sleeping with him while a sister had dated him shows major class issues and wouldn't sound like the kind of person a sorority would want to represent them. That makes all the sense in the world.

Having a sister just "not like you" seems to make sense to as to why the other sisters could vouch for you.

It sounds totally reasonable and super supportive that if a sister had a major legitimate character reason to prefer a pnm to not get a bid from her sorority that the chapter would honor that - after all, the pnm would be representing the entire sisterhood.

What sorority are you talking about? That should help answer the question.

Haha I doubt they would say because that might give it away. I think the answers here are spot on for most sororities.