Real talk abt getting “dropped”
by: DEAR PNMS
Hi ladies!!! I’m a former Panhel vp for my chapter and wanna explain how getting “dropped” works!
Because there’s over 2200 girls rushing this year (which is a decent bit more than last), I just want to say that because you don’t go back to a house you loved doesn’t mean you got “dropped” by girls you loved.
Panhel uses a formula to automate schedules based on pnm preference and house preference. But obviously, you can’t go to all of them bc no rush experience is perfect.
It is VERY probable that a mass amount of PNMs requested to have the same house back and when RFM (recruitment formulation for membership? I think) spits out your schedule- it doesn’t include your “top” house because so many are ranked as “#1”.
It doesn’t mean you didn’t have a great convo, and it doesn’t mean they hate you, it just simply falls under the cheesy term of “trusting the process”.
I know this won’t give complete closure, but I really really hope this helps with girls that have been sad after being released from somewhere that felt like home 🫶🏼.
#1 by: Here You Go
For a former Panhel vp for your chapter you have really not offered a correct explanation of the process.
RFM is Release Figure Methodology. It means that each chapter is given a limit of how many PNM's they can invite back each round. Stronger recruiting chapters must invite fewer PNM's each round than the chapters than aren't such strong recruiters. Stronger recruiting chapter means they have a higher retention rate, a higher number of pnm's put them down as their #1. So those houses can get back close to everyone they invite for a round and therefore can fill their parties with fewer invitations. Less stronger recruiting chapters invite back more PNM's because they can't count on as high a return rate.
Each chapter decides their invitation list based on the RFM number they are allowed for that round, and also make a ranked flex list. The invitation list is matched to the PNM's ranks of them, and any declined invitations (PNM's had an option to not return) are replaced in order from the ranked flex list. When the invitation list is full, no more PNM's can be invited and the rest are released from that chapter's recruitment.
This is why PNM's who ranked houses high are released. They simply did not match with them before that non-negotiable cutoff line. It doesn't mean the chapters voted to drop them, it doesn't mean they were not wanted, it doesn't mean they weren't liked or did something wrong or outright rejected.
This process is hard on the actives too. Many a member has been in tears and angry at her sisters when her favorite girl that she really connected with and just loved didn't make the cutoff.
Rush is an emotional time, but it's less about being dropped than it is about being a numbers game.
Commentby: ^Aug 13, 2024 3:15:08 PM
It's a chapter decision. One member is one voice among many. That's how sororities operate. We don't all get our very own way all the time do we?
And a computer is not doing all the dropping, the sororities are, the computer is just a tool. The exact same process used to be done manually with index cards. The process is the same no matter if it's automated or done by hand.
You are correct that it's not a mutual decision because the sororities are the ones making the decisions about who to choose as their members and they are in the driver's seat. It doesn't matter how bad a pnm wants a house, it's up to the sorority, as a chapter, to rank her highly enough to get to come back.
The pnm's choices matter during their ranking after pref. That's when the decision is actually mutual and that's how the bid process is designed.
Sorority recruitment has never been an open sign up sheet where you just pick your house. Ever. There are lots of organizations where you can do that. This is often the first taste of not getting their own way that new college students face. It's tough to have to grow up and face that finally.
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by: SeriouslyAug 14, 2024 10:53:42 AM
They don’t and they don’t. Reflect on your HS experience. Who did you hang out with? Probably people you had a lot in common with. Why would you want to be a member of a group where you have nothing in common? Where you struggle to fit in? Where you struggle to “keep up with the Jones”? Where you can’t relate?
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by: gAug 13, 2024 2:53:43 PM
It doesn’t sound like a mutual selection process though when a pnm and active can both like eachother and want to rank eachother high yet the pnm doesn’t get invited back because of the cutoff even though the active wanted them there. It’s really not in anyone’s control anymore and i think it’s really misleading to call it a mutual selection process. Calling it that can make the pnms feel very down about themselves when really it’s just a computer doing all the dropping
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