should i accept my bid?

I'm not exactly sure how it works but I'm in the same situation as you OP. I think we're too late to be able to do COB since we went to pref and didn't get released. I'll probably go to their bid day stuff and decide whether or not to drop based on how the other DPhiEs seem now that recruitment is over

If y'all drop or don't accept your bid, you're still ineligible from any recruitment events until next year. If you decide not to go with DPhiE, keep in mind that as sophomores who already did formal recruitment once, you'll probably need to have good friends in another chapter pulling for you if you want a better result than this year.

Ladies, the chapter is what you make of it. If you want to like it, you will. If you go in thinking it is crap, then you will have a bad time. Be the change you want to see. Imagine next year at formal recruitment being part of that house and sharing your change of heart!!!

I was in a similar situation as you, although it was with another chapter here that isn't ranked all that high.

I was stunned when my current chapter showed up on my bid card because I totally had a rush crush and connection with another house.

My best friend convinced me to at least just go to bid night so that i wasn't crying in my dorm feeling sorry for myself.

And you know what? I'm so happy I did. It took a couple of weeks for me to feel like I was happy in my house but now I couldn't imagine my life without it.

Not sure what the rules are regarding the alpha phi colony but keep in mind that you could get rejected from the colony. I don't want to discourage you but alpha phi is known to be extremely picky in who they pick for colony founders.

Good luck and let us know what you decide.

If you want to be in a sorority, please don't pass up this chance simply because the grass might be greener next year. It is very likely that you would get a similar or worse result (women who do well as upperclassmen generally didn't rush as freshmen, from my experience). If you signed a bid card yesterday, you're not eligible for Alpha Phi. Give DPhiE a try and see what happens.

A lot of the newer girls in dphie are really cute and fun, but if you are already this judgemental maybe you shouldn't even be a part of a sorority at all. There are different girls in all the chapters here... don't go into it with a a bad attitude from the start.

Give them a chance. They've improved a lot in the past year so I bet they'll continue to improve.

If you hate it, you can drop later. You don't have anything to lose since you can't accept a bid for another year anyway.

Do you think this clique mentality from high school lasts past college? It doesn't. Sisterhood of any kind is valuable. I see greek life as proof that you can get along with others, compromise, and have leadership.

Snap out if your poisonous mindset and get happy. Be happy! This is an awesome opportunity.

did you go to bid day?

This makes me so sad that girls are so quick to judge. I have a relative that went through recruitment as a freshman and it didn't work out in her favor. She survived. At the start of sophomore year she saw this new sorority coming to campus and decided to give it a try. She became a founder and was in a leadership role quickly. These two items alone will impact her resume in a far more positive way than being in another sorority as a member only. You begin college to open your eyes and take on all that you are allowed. It's a shame that so many are closing the door to an amazing opportunity in DPhiE. Wonderful group of very real girls.