help!

would you spring rush if you just admitted you never had a "connection" with any of the other 11 houses here?

Not to pile on, but Fall formal rush as a freshman is your very best chance to join a sorority. You pretty much need a flawless freshman year to go through a sophomore (high GPA, lots of in-house friends, willingness to consider ALL chapters, etc).

Here's the deal with spring rush (COB):
1. Most chapters don't do it
2. It's private and discreet. You will never know which houses do it and no house is under the obligation to invite you to anything.
3. Connections are KEY. My house (I graduated in May) did COB a few times when we were under total by a handful of girls, and every single bid went to girls we were already friends with, like the only non-"ABC" roomate in an apartment full of ABC's. We never held any COB events or even consulted the list the Panhellenic office keeps. I think this is common for all but 1-2 houses that are consistently under total.....and chances are those 1-2 houses are the one house where you still had an invitation.

Also, I'm sorry you didn't think you would find a connection with ANY of the 200+ girls in the house, plus the 80+ member pledge class you could have been in. By dropping from rush, that's pretty much what you're saying. I know it's hard to understand as a freshman, but every house has partiers, Jesus freaks, super academic girls, super volunteer-oriented girls, etc. If you can't find friends in a house of 300 girls, the house is not one with the problem....

I may have worded it wrong. During philanthropy round I was invited back to 7 houses and fell in love with two. But skit night I was only invited back to one. This was the house where I had never had a great convo. (It's a decent house I just never really clicked) I had the house on my schedule as the last party and with the frustration and disappointment of it all I dropped. Because it was my only house and it was at the end of the day I was scared they would drop me anyway and all of it would be for nothing. I am open to giving other houses a try in spring rush but am apprehensive because I just want to go through the whole process again only to be disappointed.

Gotcha. Man, that is a bummer and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would contact your Rho Gamma right NOW and see about COB. We once pledged a girl we cut during the week, so you never know!

If so, jeez, you're giving up every damn chance you have to join a sorority! The houses that are giving you a chance are the ones who want YOU!

If you're not the OP, COB happens when a house is below chapter total (a number that Panhellenic sets based roughly on about the average chapter size). So if after fall rush, ABC is at 280 and chapter total is 285 (just making up #'s), ABC can extend bids to up to 5 girls during the school year to get their numbers up.

Unless a chapter is WAY below total (10++ below), they probably won't have any COB events but rather quietly and discretely extend bids to girls who are already close friends with actives. I can guarantee you the house you didn't want today will be one who is COBing.

What your Rho Gam called with today was a "snap bid". If a house doesn't make quota during bid matching, they can extend bids to girls until a few hours before Bids are opened. If they snap up to quota, they are counted as making quota. After bid day, bids are extended via COB.

Remember, that houses number the girls every single day so just because that house wasn't on your skit invitation list, didn't mean you were a "no" for them. If the computer system said they could invite between 450-500 girls to skit, they may send over a list with 700 girls on it in case too many girls didn't rank them a "1". The goal is for houses to have full parties so they typically are open to inviting back more than they can. Make sense?