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And I guess "They won't be mad. I promise!" Isn't exactly correct. Obviously from these posts, they would've been mad. Truly I didn't mean to upset anyone. This is very upsetting and confusing to me. I have so many people telling me different things. The other 2 houses are lovely but I have people telling me to go through next year and I might could get my first I choice if I don't today. I'm sorry. It's hard to make decisions being so emotional. I didn't mean to be rude. Truly.

You clearly can't please everyone here so be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If you want to be in a sorority though really think hard about what will be different next year and why you think it might go differently. Also, it's great to be somewhere you are really wanted and it is sound advice that in houses with that many girls you will definitely find girls you love. Good luck.

You clearly can't please everyone here so be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If you want to be in a sorority though really think hard about what will be different next year and why you think it might go differently. Also, it's great to be somewhere you are really wanted and it is sound advice that in houses with that many girls you will definitely find girls you love. Good luck. You were not at all rude by the way. You were responding to the topic and the rude people attacked you. You insulted no one, they insulted you. Their bad

You clearly can't please everyone here so be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If you want to be in a sorority though really think hard about what will be different next year and why you think it might go differently. Also, it's great to be somewhere you are really wanted and it is sound advice that in houses with that many girls you will definitely find girls you love. Good luck. You were not at all rude by the way. You were responding to the topic and the rude people attacked you. You insulted no one, they insulted you. Their bad

You clearly can't please everyone here so be true to yourself and do what makes you happy. If you want to be in a sorority though really think hard about what will be different next year and why you think it might go differently. Also, it's great to be somewhere you are really wanted and it is sound advice that in houses with that many girls you will definitely find girls you love. Good luck. You were not at all rude by the way. You were responding to the topic and the rude people attacked you. You insulted no one, they insulted you. Their bad!

I didn't get my first choice when I went through recruitment but I listened to my rho gamma and accepted the bid. She said these people ranked you higher on their list because they really believe you fit the personality of their house. I cried a little, went to bid day, and slowly but surely I began to fall in love with my house. Disappointment is natural part of the process for most girls. The process works. You've spent maybe 2 hours at each house so you think you know what it's about but you are wrong.

PNM's - what is going to be different about you next year to where you would get your #1 choice after they cut you this year?? Your very best chance is as a freshman. Sophomores who rush for a second time usually have disappointing experiences unless they become Freshman Class Council President, Fish Camp Counselor, 4.0 GPA, etc during freshman year. Even if you end up with good friends in a certain house, they will only be sophomores when you go through next year which means they have the least "pull" in the house than juniors and seniors.

Seriously, don't be so stubborn to give up what is probably your ONLY chance of going Greek today. If you hate the house in two months, you can drop out before initiation. Just give it a try and be super outgoing and social with your pledge class. You may just meet your new best friends!!

Pnm- reading your post again, 1 pref house was your favorite and 2 you aren't as excited about. My advice still stands- if house #1 doesn't have you on their first bid list, they were ok with knowing there was a good chance you won't be getting a bid.....again, what is going to change to get you on their 1st bid list next year??? I doubt anything. Not being cruel, just trying to make you see what you're giving up if you don't get a bid to #1 and you turn down #2 or #3.

Girls that don't get their first choice usually do one of two things. Quit or stick with it. Quit only if you are sure that you're fine with not being Greek. The people above are telling the truth that freshmen are preferred and next year you will be less attractive to your first choice. So you probably won't get a house at all.

Sticking with it is the way to go. Accept the bid. Wipe the tears from your face, run to your sisters and hug the girls who recruited you. They are the ONLY house that wanted you enough to give you a bid. That's the truth. So love them back. Get to know your sisters. Go to football games with your new member class. Call someone to study together. Ask an older member that you admire to get coffee and talk. Run for office in your new member class. Ask what you can do to get more involved on campus. The more involved you are with your sorority, the more you will love it.

But you'll never have that kind of sisterhood if you take the first option and quit.