Feeling Pressured to go out
by: New hereOne of the girls in my new sorority texted me today about a frat party tonight and invited me but I don’t want to go and I told her and she was really pressuring me to go. I wasn’t expecting anything like this since everyone says they’re a “bottom” sorority and I didn’t think the girls were like this. It’s still my first week in the sorority and I don’t want them to be upset with me. What do I do?
#1by: New here
Comment#2by: Your Fellow Sister.
Huh. As someone who was there with you, I can tell you she was not "pressuring you". She invited you to go and the rest of us and was encouraging us to go as she knows that places like that are where you meet people and make new friends. They didn't want you to miss out. Sounds to me that you just don't like the sorority which is okay, but don't go complain on Greek Rank about something serious that didn't happen. Politely decline, don't make excuses. Making excuses just sounds like you are hesitant. And please drop if you don't like your "bottom" sorority. Plenty of girls would love your spot.
by: Weird
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K I apologize I'll explain. If this was the girl I was with she kept complaining about the sorority and really putting it down, stereotyping it, and overall just a poor attitude and nasty remarks about a group we already thought of as our sisters. One of our actives asked about the frat and she kept saying she was "pressured" which was not the case. (I get feeling the urge to please others but there is a difference). When a few of us said we'd go she used it as a reason to tell us how bad the sorority was. I shouldn't have jumped to conclusion it was her but if you are her I encourage you to look past Greek Rank, give the sisterhood a shot, and talk to someone else before you talk to the internet. And if you aren't I apologize and sincerely hope your sisters weren't pressuring you to do something.
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by: That’s weird
How do you even know this is the same girl that it seems like you pressured? I agree, crazy thing to say to your sister.
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by: Ok
You’re pretty valid for the explanation, I hope this girl wasn’t actually pressured if it’s not the same one
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#4by: time to grow up
Don’t know any specifics about this situation, but I will say this. Membership in a sorority means you are part of a larger Greek community, and you have an obligation to participate in it. This is one of the biggest reasons A&M Greek life suffers. Members don’t mix enough with other Greek orgs. There’s little unity. People stay too much in their narrow little lane. Please, if you do not have the time or the desire to show out to things, don’t go Greek! If social life triggers you, don’t go Greek! Part of being a mature adult is learning to network and meet new people. You never have to drink alcohol, but you should make it a priority to get out there and support the Greek system you are lucky to be a part of.
by: yeah
ALL OF THIS! Plus, if actives didn't ask pledges to go out, some pledges would feel left out and uninvolved with the chapter. They don't know you yet and what you like to do. Take it as a compliment, say no thank you, and move TF on
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by: Sleezy deezee
#7by: New help
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Everyone gets invited and included, that's why you joined a sorority.
If you need to study then do what literally everyone else does in the same situation. Either say no thank you and get back to studying, or go somewhere else to study where they can't knock on your door and you can just ignore your phone.
It's not that deep and they aren't going to kick you out as long as you aren't missing required events. Grow up and move on from this ffs.
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by: Troll
Hoping this is a troll but IF not then girl you gotta get over yourself. Sisters are asking you to go out. Say no. They ask again — which I don’t consider pressure, I think it’s nice because sometimes you feel like “do they really want me to go?” So a second invite helps — you can say no again.
No one is twisting your arm. No one is saying I’m not gonna be friends with you unless you go out. This isn’t high school, although you might mentally still be in high school with this post.
Grow. Up.
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idk yall or this situation but this is a crazy thing to say to your sister. ESPECIALLY if she’s a new member and you’re an active. do better
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