legacy

Not really, unless they already like you

You would not be considered a legacy, but let’s say for conversation’s sake, if your sister received a bid from XYZ at another school, it’s fine to let whoever is rushing you know. If you were really loving the house and the girls liked you, that extra bit of information about your sister might help in the sense of, “Oh, her sister just pledged our chapter at XYZ, so she would probably be super excited to accept a bid from us!” It might make the difference.

Thanks, since she just pledged and have not been initiated, other houses will not drop me because I’m not considered legacy right? I just don’t want other houses thinking I’ll for sure get x house bc my sister got in

You are way overthinking things. It would be very cool for you and your sister to share letters, but it's not that relevant to actives here for your own recruitment since it's different schools. The way you talk about it will be relevant though. You can mention it at the sorority in question as something interesting and pertinent, but not in a way like you expect any special consideration for it, but I wouldn't mention it at all at any other sororities because they could take it as a hint that you are wanting that particular sorority.

Sororities can be very different on different campuses. Texas Theta is nothing like Texas A&M Theta for example. So don’t assume you and your sister will even be interested in the same sororities.

But if she pledges one you really like and are having a good strong rush with, then yes, it will probably help you. Not as much as being a real legacy but if the chapter likes you, having a “special connection” to XYZ will help when it comes time to arrange the bid list.

And I agree - you’re way overthinking things. Just have your rush and let your sister have hers. You’re at different schools and going through rush at basically the same time. It’s not like a legacy connection where you’ve had years to be “brainwashed” into thinking XYZ is the best and only sorority! :)

But what if you’re a real legacy- as in my mom is an alumnae of one of these chapters. Is that sorority going to consider me more and are others going to cut me b/c I’m a legacy?

Your mom isn't all over this already?

The reality is that if every pnm who was a legacy somewhere got dropped by every other house, rush would completely suck. You’d have 3X as many girls at Kappa as there are spots in the pledge class (quota) and most of them would have no other party invitations on Day 2 unless they had a 2nd or 3rd Legacy house. Just using Kappa as an example.

The kind of legacies who will likely have bigger cuts are these kinds of situations:
1. You have a sitting sister at A&M.
2. You are a legacy to one house like 11 different ways (mom, sisters, grandma, great grandma not to mention the “unofficial” special relations like cousins and aunts)
3. Your mom / grandma / sister is a BIG TIME alumna - sits on the national executive board, has been rush advisor for your hometown chapter for years, is president of the local alumnae group, etc.

I’ve been in the small room during rush where we are finalizing the invitation lists. If we are a little short to the release range and don’t feel comfortable cutting anyone else who might be a great sister, we’ll add the women with sitting sisters to the list. It’s fun to steal a sitting sister but 99 out of 100 times, she’s pledging with her sister and it’s a waste to carry them deep.