mutual selection confusion

"Mutual selection" means that both the PNM and the sorority want to continue to get to know each other. After each round, you'll rank the houses you'd like to return to in order. At the same time, the chapters are making lists of PNM's they want to invite back. If you choose each other, you'll get an invite to the next round.

It is somewhat rare for a PNM to not get any party invitatations for the next round. Most PNM's who don't get a bid choose to drop out of rush because they don't like the options they have, not because they were cut completely.

You should only be worried about steep cuts IF you have a low GPA, no recs, a bad reputation, or if you're a junior or older. The majority of girls who go into rush open-minded and focused on finding a great sisterhood / home end up with a bid to one of our great houses! Please don't stress!!

Ask anyone after they go through recruitment and they will tell you the process is not mutual

it's mutual if you're a rockstar. i definitely knew girls who were "average" who had 1-2 party invites after the first round, but i also knew "average" girls who did a lot better. the best way to make yourself stand out is having great recs and having good conversations in the house. be bubbly and interesting, but also genuine

Don't let rush define you. It's an environment not everyone is comfortable in. Go with an open mind and confident in what you bring to the table. Be interested in the girls you meet and their houses. It will work out.
If you find for some reason it doesn't, consider rushing AOPi. That will be a different environment and maybe more suited to some girls personalities. It would be fun to be a founding member of something. Hard work, but fun.

And just be yourself

Don't be fooled....it is not mutual