sophmores

Well, my daughter, a transfer sophmore, just got dropped today after thinking things were going great. She is shy by nature, so really wanted to become part of a sorority and put herself "out there" to try to be more outgoing. She is pretty, smart and kind, but still got dropped.

Sounds as though a lot of girls are being dropped including freshman with no bids. This sounds like a first at TCU, is it because so many more girls are rushing this year?

My daughter is a freshman, shy too, but great grades and great extra curriculars. Dropped from all but 2 by Round 3 and I haven't heard about today. It's a ruthless, cutthroat system--at least this year it seems. Several of her friends were dropped too.

My friend's daughter, rushing as a sophomore, went from 13 to 4 first day, and then quit on the next day. Hard for me to believe that such a pretty, talented, accomplished, committed kid who has never had a problem making friends, is not shy, is articulate, has done work abroad, is athletic and lovely in everyway, was so annihilated by recruitment. Big loss TCU greek system.

My daughter is a sophomore transfer. She is very outgoing and has good grades, etc. She got 9 invites first round, 5 second and 3 this last round. She only wants to join one of the three and will probably only accept a bid from the one she prefers. I am a fraternity guy and find the formal sorority rush process weird and confusing. Probably just me.

I'm a student and in previous years, not a ton of sophomores were dropped. I know a lot of sophomores quit because they go in rush with a bad mindset and only want certain houses. I guess this year is the most competitive!

It is a real shame that wonderful girls are not receiving bids. However, if houses are inviting the girls back and they choose not to accept those invitations then they have made a mistake. You want to become a member of a house that values you. They cannot go off a name. All the houses at TCU have good qualities and would be considered superior on most campuses. I would encourage your daughters who have been offered a bid to give those sisters a chance. Obviously they want to offer friendship or they wouldn't have invited her.

My daughter mentioned having great conversations with Sophmore recruits that practically guaranteed her a bid, told her how perfect she was for the house which then dropped her the next day. This is not right!
How are these decisions being made?
There should be a method to this madness. Treating these incoming freshman and Sophmores with compassion and honesty is vital. Do what you have to do but don't lead them on if there is no intention of asking them back!
I believe there is a place for all. Houses obviously have to make difficult decisions but adding to their stress and making them feel less than who they are is not what should be happening in this process.

Take this from an alum....if your daughters are not open to ALL the houses, they will not have a good experience. If they are not open to all the houses, they are probably basing their decision off of greek rank and tent talk which is a bad idea. All of the houses at TCU are strong and your daughter could probably find a group of best friends in ANY of them. The best thing you can do is encourage your daughter to be grateful that she gets any bid at all because many girls don't get anything.

My daughter same thing incoming freshman great grades and great résumé. Not shy at all. Was told she was beautiful by every house had 9 invites back to getting dropped completely today. Devastated and so upsetting to get a call at 5:30 a.m. To a crying child. Boom your dumped you are 15 hours from home being led on for 3 days. Her self esteem is so low right now this is not the child I dropped off on Sunday. She is a legacy for Zeta and had several recs for others which now I know don't mean anything. In fact now she feels out of place because she thinks it was because of her race. Ugh!! This is frustrating as a parent. She just text to ask what do I do when they are all out in the quad tomorrow she's going to stayed tied up in her room to wait for her excited roommate to get back with her new letters.