2014 rush

Unfortunately OU has a very competitive university and that only serves to make OU's recruitment competitive. The process is developed to keep the entire pahellenic system strong. The girls you mention may have been good fits for the sororities you mention but they may not have been too. The houses with the highest return rates are required to release more girls each round so the girls may have other more realistic options. That said I encourage you to take your own advice, girls can not possibly know the members in short ten minute conversations either. I would also get off this site. There are some misguided girls on the site. Please encourage your daughter to give the houses that CHOSE her for pref a chance. Forget the nastiness on this site. The OU Greek system is actually quite positive and quite friendly with each other, Sororities are about sisterhood not a rank a house is labeled with. Good Luck,

Mom are you judging girls in houses? Do you perceive your daughter to be better than girls in the houses that liked her for herself? Seems to me you feel quite free to judge the " lower" houses but no one should dare do that to you or your child. Get over it, maybe she can find a real sisterhood. Or did you want her in the blond house that was superficial?

Simple question, What makes one person better than another or one group better than another? If that is reality that sororities have created at OU then the conversation that I going to have with my daughter is do you really want to be part of organizations that send that type of message. Have no more comments for this madness.

It's interesting that the mom can't see that she's making the same judgements that she's accusing the girls of doing.

From one parent to another... This question only reinforces the problem you are describing. We can't change what teenagers/young adults think or write. But you can guide the young women you to know to choose wisely.

There will always be more diversity outside of the top groups. That is the same at every campus. They select girls like themselves, and girls who present themselves to be like them, because they can. The catch is if you accept an invite to one of those perceived top groups you have to be really really sure you are like those girls. If you are, great! If you aren't really like them, the odds of finding someone like you in those groups is slim.

In the rest of the groups they have accepted a more diverse crowd due to the process, which is how NPC wished it worked for all groups. And their members truly want to be at the house they are at. If you don't get along with a few girls, odds are there is a group within the group that is just like you.

So getting cut by all of those houses might just be a blessing in disguise. The girls you know will find someone who is just like them, that they can bond with, in any of the remaining houses. I have no doubt.

I made no such assumptions. And did not list any house in particular in my response. I simply presented an if/then scenario.

Of course, as a parent I believe my daughter is awesome. But as I have been around a long time, at campuses much more competitive and cut throat than OU. She will be duly prepared for the reality.

There are no guarantees, even for legacies.

First of all, I would like you to know that I am sorry that your child has had a difficult rush. It's hard to understand how the process works, but as stated before, it is truly a numbers game. Also it does help if you know active girls in the chapter. If each sorority member has one girl from her home town that she is supporting, then it can become VERY competitive. Chapters also vote on legacies, and it's not unusual to have enough legacies to fill an entire pledge class! It is also customary to offer membership to all rushees that have a sitting sister in the chapter. My daughter happens to be on rush team this year, and she purposefully chose several girls without connections from small towns to rush for her sorority, because you are correct, there are tons of beautiful. articulate, smart girls that attend OU. After reading through a majority of posts on the site, it doesn't shine a positive light on the Greek Community in general. There are beautiful and popular girls in EVERY sorority. If your daughter is not comfortable with her choices, please tell her that freshman girls typically run around with the girls on their dorm floor! Some girls get to know sorority girls throughout the year and go through rush as a sophomore.There is nothing worse then to hear your child sobbing on the other end of the phone. Good luck to her and I am hopeful that she will have a wonderful experience her freshman year. Boomer Sooner!!

I hope OUPAN looks at this site. It would be easy for them to have all houses have a quota for sophomores; other schools do it. Get with the program!!!

I'm just curious; why wouldn't you encourage an opportunity for Sophomores to pledge? After all, I think it would only strengthen the system and extend lifelong friendship for more girls. Also, these girls would have a proven academic and volunteer record in high school and college. Not to mention, more dues paying members for the chapters. What is the downfall?

Soph quotas are mandatory when they are in place. Each house must take a certain number of sophomores. OU doesn't need to do that. All girls go through recruitment equally. Quota is set by total number of girls going to pref night at all of the houses then you divide by 11. Everyone is equal no advantage or disadvantages on being a sophomore recruit.