dropping your sorority?

Please don't pick a little and notbe a good big and cause her to feel unwanted.

I dropped DDD at my school (not Ole Miss) along with a few friends and we started a colony for another NPC sorority (didn't have enough options, wanted a group of girls more like ourselves.) The unfortunate part is that the majority of us were fully initiated sisters and weren't able to partake once the colonization was official. The new members that chose to follow us were able to initiate into the new sorority however and despite losing my letters I'm still really grateful I dropped. I would definitely talk to someone about it and if the feeling keeps up I wouldn't waste my time with it, I loved Greek life but I just didn't love my sisters. The girls we left behind spent weeks baking for us and pleading we stay saying they just neeeeded us and everyone was just "jealous" of us and the second we made it official they were the most evil people on earth so don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.

Do what is best for you. If you want to drop, do it. Your friends in your sorority will get over it if they're true friends.

What do you mean by " I'm afraid I waited too long and now I'm too far in to be able to drop." What is "too far in"?

You are not required to stay a member. If you resign your membership, you have to be prepared if your sorority members are no longer interested in being your friend. You are an initiated member at this point. You can never join another sorority, so you need to be OK with that, too. If you ever have a daughter, she will not be a legacy.

You do what makes you happy. Make the decision.

My big quit right before my initiation and it seriously sucked! Please don't take a little until you work this out. Even if you stay its not fair if you can't be committed to her.

I would definitely think long and hard before resigning your membership. As someone mentioned above, if you terminate your membership, you are no longer a member (meaning your daughters won't be legacies, you can't participate in alum associations, write recs etc)...but, since you've been initiated, you can NEVER join another sorority, either. It's kind of a lose-lose situation if you resign. If early alum status is an option, look in to that. You probably shouldn't take a little if you're not excited about it at all bc having a bad big could make her feel unwanted and it does have a negative impact on the sorority experience. However, if there are any girls in PC 15 that you've really bonded with, then you might consider it, bc having an amazing little could help you feel more at home in your sorority. Regardless, you might want to just back off for a little bit and only attend mandatory events; maybe you're just feeling a little burned out and taking a "break" could help you reflect and realize why you loved your sorority enough to initiate. Don't put pressure on yourself to go to lunch every day; that could be making you feel even more resentful. At the same time, talk to the 3 sisters you're living with; surely you feel close to them or you wouldn't have chosen to live with them in the first place. Try to bond with them as much as possible and ask them to "introduce" you to other sisters in yalls' PC that they are close to-chances are, if they like them, you will too. :)

Not many sororities will let a member go inactive just because they are not "into" being a member anymore. This is not like a member being away for student teaching or nursing program.

There typically has to be some kind of severe hardship or catastrophic event in the member's life. We are not going to let a college member simply drop out and avoid her financial and chapter responsibilities, but maintain their membership for when it is convenient or useful to them. You put nothing in, you get nothing back.