Dropped before meeting anyone?

As someone with generations of Memphis family. I attended a well known private school considered best in Tn before moving so I had connections. Then moving to Atlanta attended what was at the time the best public high school in the state. Went through Rush at UGA. Please it was connections at UGA just like Ole Miss. I was lucky as my high school was a major feeder school and had gone to camp with many girls that turned out to be in a sorority. Again even back then so many girls like me were double legacy status and it gave preference. Not all the sororities could take all the legacy girls. Keep in mind now Legacy girls is only a consideration. It is much kinder to cut them early if they are not a fit so they can find a house. Back in the day they may have kept you right before Pref and then cut you if you were a legacy or had a recommendation from a well known alum. I had to transfer to Ole Miss to take care of sick relative affiliated with my sorority. I got to see life on the other side of recruitment at both schools not much different. SEC Greek Schools in stronger houses pick pledges with strong ties to the school and community based on their families. Just like business connections matter. People use well it is a legacy sorority to justify why their little princess was cut-but most girls getting into SEC schools today have high grades, activities, sports, volunteer, and work experience. That is not enough to be a an IT GIRL. No one is going to look up your child's high school to see ranking unless their other girl's in the house she wants pulling from her. I would tell out of state Mom's to find a camp in Ms. if they are sending their children out of state so they can build connections. Having been inside a house during rush I can say you try to talk when allowed per the rules to talk to many girls in the spring. But it is a kindness to cut early if they do not have the pull in the house to get a bid in a competitive year. Either way she will have a great time at Ole Miss. One of my best friends came down from the Midwest to attend with me and it took her until Junior year to get in a sorority. She still had a great time before she got in a house and got involved in clubs etc. She met more people and got her grades up as she had a learning disability-at that time it did count against her sadly. My other good friend from the West came got in a sorority her 1st year. Many Ga girl's many out of state girls at Ole Miss. All have a great time. Keep an open mind on houses. Many girl's went PHI Mu from Ga. and now many ADPI. Both sororities founded in Ga. Many fun activities outside of sorority life at Ole Miss and she can network. Keep an open mind and it is sad people focus on rank not on the right fit. You can tell your child I was in what is a top sorority both at UGA and Ole Miss but even if I had been in a bottom sorority they all do the same things have lunch and dinner, socialize, make life long friendships,.

Before you judge about how this is unfair- Again it is harder to say know to a neighbor's child from your home or girl you will see again or their parents will see your parents or grandparents. Easier to reject someone with family members you or your family will not see again. That may not in the future come back to make donations to the large houses etc. I have just given the same input to my Goddaughter going through rush at a large state school in Florida. She did not go to the other large state school in FL where her Mother went. So I told her she will not be an in house legacy and legacy status is only a consideration. Told her to keep an open mind she went for college ranking over connections. She is going in state but from a small high school not a major feeder. I prepared her even with recommendations and legacy status she may not get one of the top 5 houses on the campus to even invite her back for round 2. In order to get into large FL schools now of course she had well over a 4.0GPA. So far she only had 5 houses look at her resume through panhellenic. She was Captain of two sports teams in high school, everyone in Fl volunteers in order to get instate scholarship, she is skinny blond very Barbie-but her IT style is not what every house will want. She will struggle as she does not have connections to the actual school through her family and knows nobody a year ahead in a House already at the FL school. Houses want diversity they want people from different places, looks, etc. SEC recruitment is hard keep an open mind is something we should tell all women going through recruitment. Again I am not saying trust the process it clearly needs reforms as the focus is to keep every house full by the new computer but keep an open mind.

Check to be certain her GPA was recorded correctly by Panhellenic. They distribute official stats to houses. I know someone who was cut in the same way because her GPA was incorrect with Panhellenic.

I wish this could be pinned, this is really really insightful:
'As someone with generations of Memphis family. I attended a well known private school considered best in Tn before moving so I had connections. Then moving to Atlanta attended what was at the time the best public high school in the state. Went through Rush at UGA. Please it was connections at UGA just like Ole Miss. I was lucky as my high school was a major feeder school and had gone to camp with many girls that turned out to be in a sorority.

What isn't enough
Your childs out of state school ranking
That is not enough to be a an IT GIRL. No one is going to look up your child's high school to see ranking unless their other girl's in the house she wants pulling from her.

REALLY REALLY GREAT ADVICE and unfortunately for many needs to be cultivated in grade school and junior high:
I would tell out of state Mom's to find a camp in Ms. if they are sending their children out of state so they can build connections. LOOK UP CAMP DESOTO in Alabama.

THIS ALSO HAPPENS
Having been inside a house during rush I can say you try to talk when allowed per the rules to talk to many girls in the spring.

MANY MANY girls are invited to recruiting events in their senior year. Ole Miss has many events in the fall and the spring. This is how you get to know a lot of members in a house.

With all of that said, ignore the chatter and what other people tell you to think. All of the chapters are excellent. I was OOS had no concept of OM rush and landed in a house that is no longer at Ole Miss and ... I am/was happy, still have many many life long friends from that "lower tier house". None of us went to sleep at night feeling sorry for ourselves. 85% of us are normal well adjusted grown ass women (the other 15%...we still had some nut cases, as does every house)

So with Bid Day over and done with, do the OP and her daughter have clarity now?

Did she have recs? Those really matter at big schools.

Yes, Fl may rely more on social media vs connections. Still most women this century have full blown social media accounts from middle school on so the real issue is you need to know people and coming from a big feeder school helps.