making those connections

Go to the parties with whoever you want to. The other houses likely won't even notice. Just don't take pictures and post them on social media! Then the other houses will take notice. I took three trips to Oxford the spring before I came to ole miss. Each time I stayed with girls from different sororities. They all completely understood that I was keeping my options open. Each of those three sororities took to all the way to pref. the final decision was mine!

Nobody is going to move you down on their list for attending a party with actives from another sorority unless you make a fool of yourself. If you are a top girl, and recognized by the other houses, they will make it a point to approach you and introduce themselves. Sororities love to compete over girls! A word of caution. Never let one sorority know you have a favorite! KD is famous for cutting girls just after skit it they think you are favoring another house. Kappa and DG will drop you after the first round if they think you are going with another sorority. Be friendly to all the sororities and never, never tell anyone, even your grandmother, what sorority you are favoring! Nobody wants to have to give out snap bids because they didn't make quota. It's better for them to drop you and make room for girls who do want a bid from their house than take a chance on a top girls who other houses are crushing on.

Now I am super nervous because if I interpet all these posts right I could be in a mess. If I don't have in house or alumni connections never be on Xo,DDD,KD,or DG lists. If I don't go to spring parties with alot of sororities I wont be on their top list. But if I get too close to one then I'll get cut by KD,KKg and DG while I may not even be on the one they think I like's list. WTH

I hate to say this because it will further frustrate you, but... in real Ole Miss fashion, the sororities chose you, you have very little say so. From your resume, social media and pictures, we can predict with about 90% accuracy which house you will end up in. Like the above poster stated, each house is looking for something different. There are exceptions here, there are between 200 and 300 girls who will actually be sought after by all the sororities. In this case, the choice will be theirs, but for the majority of the girls, you are already perfect for one of the houses, and that house will find you. That is why everybody says to keep an open mind. We know the type of girl who will fit in our houses. That will be for us to decide, not necessarily you. We call each other sisters because we are like a family. There is a common bond that holds us all together. And don't believe the BS on this site about sisters hating each other after rush is done. This is not the case in any of the houses. Every active you meet will tell you how obsessed she is with her house!

If you go to several parties and always stay with girls in one sorority, yes, it will be noticed. Might not destroy your rush as houses like to compete over girls, but it's not really smart. It's not that you need to stay with someone from every house you like, just don't stay with only one house. And surely you know not to post only pics of yourself with girls from one house, or like pics from mainly one house. You may get that house if you're a top girl but you will not make a good impression.Keep your options open if you can. If you only have friends in one or two houses, then go with them - the other houses won't notice if they don't know you before rush.