where's huh and commonsense?

HAH actually I'm in neither of those houses!

That wasn't me who answered...I don't know why someone would pretend to be me.
And I doubt Huh is a DDD lmao

No, your new here. You still think top houses are all shiny and perfect. but I PROMISE with Commonsense's attitude and demanding that girls have no say, she is top tier. And I agree with above, screams DDD or KD. That's great that you found nice supportive girls in DDD. That doesn't mean they are like to girls who don't fit with them.

No one said any new members made a mistake or were unhappy in DDD. All anyone is saying is that this superior attitude of members over PNMs, and insisting certain girls will belong in bottom houses (which Commonsense said to you even), is quite common among top tier, specifically DDD and KD. You'll see after you put on a rush. And please, learn to use the reply button.

Reply button doesn't work properly on my cell phone. If I recall correctly, commonsense never said that certain girls belong in bottom houses. What she said was that not everyone will get a bid to a top house and that we should be happy wherever we end up. She said that it was hard to get into top houses. She said that the odds were not in our favor for a top house. She also said that I would never make it into "her" house. I agreed, and I still believe that I did not end up in her house. My problem with what she said was that it was discouraging and that at a time that we needed to be confident, going into recruitment, she was intimidating us. She said that we did not pick our favorites, that they picked us. Well, I did get to pick my favorite! DDD was my favorite going in and still is. I preffed DDD, DG, and xo. They were my first, second, and third choice going in. Sure, I was dropped by my fifth and sixth choice after the first round, but my favorites were always on my cards. She was wrong. We do sometimes get to pick our houses. I did!

It sounds like you had one of those near-perfect recruitments, which is great for you, but not all PNMs had the same story. If you just went through formal, you know that's a fact. There's no way you could have missed the tears, shock and disappointment as so many girl lost favorites. That's not to say they don't end up happy where they land, but those drops can be tough. It doesn't sound like you experienced just how hard it is if you kept your top three favorites all week. I agree with you that PNMs need to feel confident, but they also have to be realistic about how competitive it is. Some really aren't and come here thinking they hold all the cards. I don't think it's always because they feel special or entitled. A lot just don't realize that they'll be up against SO many girls with the same great qualities as them. They also don't understand how the system works in regards to releasing PNMs and how many the higher ranked houses are required to cut. You'll see what I mean next year when you're on the other side of recruitment. Anyway, congrats on your successful week. I know a lot of incredible girls with very impressive GPAs, resumes and recs, great personalities and very pretty looks who didn't see things go as smoothly as you did, so congrats again on your very happy outcome!