greeks ratings and bashings
by: Concerned
I am an Old Miss parent and Alumni Adviser for a Sorority at a western university. As a lover of Greek life, the extreme negativity toward many of your Greek organizations saddens me. I know that the first thought is that I am a helicopter parent. My daughter had an okay experience, about what we expected because we really had no idea how it worked because it is 180 degrees from my university's system. That is okay because each system is unique.
A Greek system is only as strong as it's weakest member and every group caters to a different group of students. To call a group the "rejects" or "losers" demeans yourselves and the entire system. The impression I get from my student is that the members of the "lower tier" fraternities and sororities have been put down for so long that they accept, to some extent, that they are "losers" and don't put forth much effort to change this image. They behave in many ways like abused children. There will always be a more "popular" group for a certain demographic because that is how society works. I would say that one of the "top tier" groups at Ole Miss might not be right for the girl from a small town in Kansas who wants to be an NASA engineer but there is a group that she will fit in with. Just because they are not like you does not mean they are losers, just different. Charity begins at home, so help each other and if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all. Promote yourselves, don't degrade other
#11by: Momom
This entire thread is very sad to me. Yes, I'm a mom. Yes, my daughter went through rush and was cut by all but two groups. She decided to withdraw rather than commit to a house that she wasn't comfortable with. She was disppointed to say the least. She has an exteremly strong résumé. She has the grades, the service, and the leadership experience that all of the sororities say they are looking for. The only thing she lacked was the connection. It's sad to know that so many houses passed on an exceptional girl (by anyone's standards) simply because her dad and I aren't connected. It was a great learning experience for her.
Comment#12by: Mormon
Thanks. She's ok with it now. Like I said, it was a learning experience for her, so that makes it positive any way you look at it. To the first young lady to respond, I never called names nor did I say a negative word about any of the houses. I also didn't name houses so you have no way of knowing who cut her. It wasn't a matter of being good enough. I said it was a lack of connections. That's not a slur to anyone, just a fact.
by: ^^^^^
At ole miss, connections are important. So is reputation. I was told through my hometown Panhellenic that connections would be important. I was told that every rec I obtained would need to be from an ole miss alumnae. I worked for months finding those ladies who were willing to campaign for me! I also had my social media stalked by each and everyone of these ladies. It's hard to find the connections, but it is possible. I preffed three top sororities on campus. Not one bad pic in social media, not one unfortunate drunken night on the town. I'm sorry you were not told these things prior to recruitment.
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#13by: Mormon
I'm glad that you found your place. She knew people in some of the houses, but not all recs were UM ladies. We're from a rather small town, so that would have been difficult. Yes, or hometown girls were warned to clean up their social media. That was very much stressed. We wondered what kinds of things these girls were posting! It is what it is.
by: ^^^^^
The answer is NOT to come online and embarrass your bidless daughter on a college age site. Stop right now! You've already told us way too much.
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#14by: Sorry
It is what it is. Ole Miss is no different than any other school with a competitive recruitment. Most of the girls who get bids (especially to the top houses) have come from private school, have attended prestigious summer camps, have friends already in the houses, have spent months networking. It makes no difference whether or not you are coming from OOS or in-state, girls who do not network get released! Best advice I can give to somebody coming from out of state, find an alumnae from your area who can introduce you to actives already at Ole Miss. Plan a spring trip or two to actually come out and meet girls. All the fraternities host large spring parties. Sororitiy girls are crawling all over these parties. This is the best way to meet girls and increase your chances of getting a bid if you are from out of state! Find an alumnae who will call all her friends in her sorority to put in a good word for you. It's really not that hard, but it does take some work and an outgoing personality! Ole Miss girls are exceptional! If you want to join in their sisterhoods, you will need to be exceptional too. Good grades and extracurriculars will only get your foot in the door. It takes so much more!
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by: ...so sorry...
...it's a tough experience... but she's not alone... hard to see through these events without perspective... its so raw as its happening... have personal knowledge of similar situations where invites appeared down the road... after the student finds OTHER avenues of friendship and fulfillment... she'll find her way...all the best...
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