listen up pnm's - here's what matters
by: me
You've read here to ignore tent talk, that it doesn't matter, etc. That's right. But here's another thing: once you receive your bid, no one (unless they're arrogant jerks who don't matter) will care what letters you wear.
Here's what does matter: the people you spend your time with. When I went through rush I admit I was snobby and only would pledge the "top" houses. I shocked when I was dropped by all but "lower tier" houses despite having connections. But I took my mom's advice and accepted the bid from the one house that invited me back.
Here's the irony: on Bid Day I saw a girl who I'd met moving into the dorm. Someone I really liked, who I wanted to get to know. She was at my house...and so were so many other great girls. I also realized the members - who saw something in me that had them extend a bid - were just as great. My house is a mix of out-of-state and in-state (I'm in-state but plan to move out-of-state when I graduate) which is the perfect fit for me.
I did get to know girls from top and mid tier houses - and there are some wonderful members, but looking back, I see how perfect my house is, even though I really wasn't sure. So if you get a bid from a house you're unsure about, TAKE IT! Get to know your sisters. Re-rushing is rarely successful and the houses that do open bidding are the ones you likely think you're too good for.
I wish you all the best and hope you'll take my mom's advice (she wasn't even in a sorority, but knew that this was a chance worth taking) and run to your house tomorrow with a smile (even if you're faking it), then work to get to know your sisters. I promise you this - in a house of 300-400 girls, you WILL find your group and if you can't, then you're not trying.
Comment#4 by: Same
I am lurking from another school but I had the same experience. I accepted my bid but kinda questioned where I was for the whole year, honestly. I didn't REALLY connect to my house until this year when recruiting as an active and had friends living in the house. I am so proud of where I am now, even though my house is considered "lower tier". We worked hard and got an amazing new mem class this year, so even if you don't initially love your house, you can make it better every year!
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by: OM girlSep 28, 2019 10:50:25 AM
Your advice is so important because I see girls who think they should click with their house/sisters immediately - that doesn't always happen, even if you got the house of your dreams. You have to work at making friends and building relationships. And then you usually find yourself realizing you're in the 'right' house!
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