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You'd be surprised at how many PNMs in the SEC don't get their first choice. I'm an alum and do a lot of recs for women going through rush, so I see this happen every year. One of my Ole Miss girls didn't get her first choice last year. She got her second and was so upset at first, that she almost didn't go to Bid Day activities. She did decide to go and has never looked back. She loves her chapter and soon realized that it really was the best place for her. That is often the case. The system really is designed to work so that PNMs end up in the best house for them. Another thing that I see happen a lot is that PNMs are very torn between their first and second choices and sometimes worry after Pref if they ranked in the best order for them. Whether they get first or second, they are usually happy and don't feel like they settled at all. I can't speak for those who get their third choice because, of the many girls I've done recs for, I've never had one get anything but her first or second choice. Good luck during your recruitment!

Thank you. That makes me feel a little better.

ALL of the sororities at Ole Miss have wonderful qualities. Ask yourself this question... am I willing to be give up being Greek entirely if I don't get my first choice? Make that decision prior to rush. Personally, I think it would be foolish to turn your back on the entire Greek system rather than giving choice #2 or #3 a chance. GO GREEK!

I got a sorority I didn't want at all and almost decided that being Greek wasn't worth it, but I gave it a chance and I am SO happy in my chapter now! It doesn't seem like it sometimes, but the system generally works to put you where you belong!

great advice

You need to change your attitude. Rush is intense, it's filled with pressure and bizarre expectations and a ridiculous amount of preconeceptions. Getting your second house isn't settling.

Don't have. Choice going in! Only a small percentage like 5% really getthdir choice.

Go in with an open mind. Yes they are recruiting you but they are the ones making the choice. All you have to do is decide to accept their invitation.

I had my first choice all the way though pref round and was pretty devistated to open my bid card and see it was from a sorority I had previously thought I wouldn't want at all, but I decided to give it a chance. I'm so glad that I ended up with the sorority I did because I've met really amazing people in it and keep hearing negative things from people who went my first choice. It all works out how it's supposed to. Your gamma chi will tell you to trust the system and you will think it's dumb but trust the system.

I just want to say I came into rush thinking I only wanted a certain "top tier" sorority. I had a good friend in one of those sororities. I was certain I was getting my 1st choice. I was blind sided when I got cut from my friend's sorority right after round 3. I hung out with those girls, was courted by them, and fell in love with them. I was devastated. I talked to my friend in that sorority and she convinced me not to drop. I have to say, I am so happy that I listened. I wound up finding a home in a sorority I did't even consider before starting. Seriously, look at every sorority. When you walk through the houses, think hard and openly. My opinions of the sorority that I pledged changed each day I went through. I finally listed to my opinions and not all of the tent talk. There were so many girls who had multiple friends in sororities that they got cut from. Some dropped all together and some continued. There were girls who were not happy with whatever their outcome was. If you can get over the high school mentality, you will be fine. Seriously, the houses are all filled with amazing girls.

This is the norm at Ole Miss. I am glad to hear so many positive stories.