i don't want my legacy house
by: Legacy
I'm going to keep this as vagues as possible for obvious reason. I am an ole miss legacy at a certain chapter - mom, sister, aunt at ole miss, grandmother at a different school. I already know a bunch of sisters. I have my rec letters all lined up. I've grown up surrounded by this sorority, my mom and aunt are involved with the alumni stuff and my sister is also.
Here's the catch - I don't want to be in this house. I already know it's not me - I like the girls I know, and I know they like me, but I have a hunch that feeling that it's not the right house for me is mutual. I probably wouldn't fit in (at least with the girls I know) and I know that's okay. But will I be cut from other houses just because of this big connection? How do I let other houses know I'm interested in them and to give me a chance and not just assume that my first choice is going to be my legacy house? Could I tell my sister, and maybe she could let the chapter know or is that a huge mistake?
#1by: Cool
Really don't say anything yet to anyone. First of all the pledge sisters that you might have in that house could be completely your kind of people and that's who you would spend all your time with so dont make any decisions just yet.
Secondly as you meet girls through social media and when you come to campus, let them know you are very open minded and not just set on your legacy house
Commentby: Umm
Well find other legacies for that chapter going here next year. I just think it's silly to cut loose a chapter that might be a perfect fit with the next pledge class.
i would focus on meeting people in all the houses and letting them know how open minded you are. Tell your rec writers for other houses to write it in your letters of support. Or you can leave off all legacy info on your resume and hope most houses will just want to meet you on your own terms.
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#2by: Be careful...
That could be a mistake. I would play it safe for now- and keep your "gut feeling" to yourself as much as possible until it gets closer to rush. In this new variable quota system you are LUCKY to have a legacy option, just ask the huge # girls from last year who were IN-HOUSE legacies who got cut ...It's never has been a slam dunk for all legacies to think they're automatically in at Ole Miss, but especially now days. And if your legacy house gets even a HINT that you aren't interested, you could be cut right off the bat. So...if you really ARE open minded...keep meeting girls from your legacy house, give them a fair shot, too. But at this point there's LOTS of time to connect with girls from other houses, and you can always low-key mention the "I want to be open minded" thing. We get it. Most houses like the challenge of taking other houses legacies, so don't think we aren't open to trying. As long as your sister isn't currently an active member, it's pretty easy to be super polite to your legacy house, while exploring other possibilities at the same time. PS- DO NOT REPLY about whether your sister is active or not. Its way too easy for them to figure out who you are....
by: Legacy
#4by: Good luck!
I agree with the other comments. Even if you are having doubts you will still have to go through Recruitment, so I would give each Sorority a good look (including your legacy Sorority). Get recommendation letters to every Sorority and make connections to the sororities you would like to get to know better. Obviously your legacy sorority is going to get you a little further into the rush week, but with variable quota who knows what might happen. Go in with an open mind, you might find your legacy looks more favorable as you get to know more of the girls, but if not you will at least be knowledgeable of the others.
#5by: Anon Reb
Before you go around and tell ANYONE that you do not want your legacy house, be sure that you really mean it. What if it comes down to that chapter or no bid? With the variable quota, nothing is a sure bet anymore. Don't throw away that chapter when you don't have to. You may want them at the end.
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by: Legacy
Thanks. But another question. How would I know who those pledge sisters would be if I don't go with them up to the end? Can I tell that at the parties? Does that become obvious after the first round?
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